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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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MummyToAnAngel2408 · 02/02/2020 22:19

Hi everyone, I just signed up to Mumsnet today and wanted to have a little post of how I'm feeling because I'm gonna send myself insane if not. Just over a year ago I lost my 3 year old boy, he was my only child and my absolute world he died because of hospital negligence which I'm currently fighting for his justice and making positive steps in the right direction. This week we have just found out we're expecting again I'm around 5+2, although I'm over the moon to be sent a little rainbow baby from my angel in the sky I'm also terrified about so many things. I'm scared because I've been having mild cramps and my anxiety is going through the roof that I'm gonna lose this baby because I lost my son I started doing what I shouldn't and googling it and it made me so much worse I'm so scared, I'm also scared that people will judge because I lost my son over a year ago I'm doing it too soon, I loved my son more than words could describe and I will always be his mummy but I also really really miss being a mummy too doing the little things and it breaks my heart everyday. And finally I'm also scared about being a mummy again, as happy as I am I just can't shake the anxiety of being a mummy and doing it right and having a healthy pregnancy and baby or what people will think I'm so sorry for the long post and I'm also in counselling I have been since I lost my son just with finding out I was pregnant again I felt like this would be a good place to share how I was feeling and see if anyone had a similar experience? Thank you.

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Ridethewaves · 03/02/2020 00:23

I havnt had a similar experience but just wanted to say I'm thinking of you. What you have been through sounds devastatingly hard. You sound like such a kind devoted mother, your little one you lost and little one inside are so lucky to have you.

I was very nervous about miscarriage, what got me through was to remind myself that with each day that passes the risk of miscarriage reduces significantly.
Wishing you all the best Flowers

zeddybrek · 03/02/2020 00:33

I'm so sorry you have had to experience such pain. Sorry for the quick reply but didn't want to read and run. Wish you all the best for your pregnancy. Don't think of other people, their opinion doesn't matter. I hope you have a healthy baby and can be the mummy you want to be again, you sound lovely x

Treaclepie19 · 03/02/2020 07:24

I'm so very sorry for your loss. You've been through an awful awful time and it's no wonder you feel anxious. Look after yourself Flowers

bluemoon2468 · 03/02/2020 07:45

I'm so sorry for everything you've been through, it sounds unimaginably hard.

I'm not sure whether this will be helpful to you or not, but I'm finding this website reassuring - datayze.com/miscarriage-chart.php - if you put in your own personal data it tells you your miscarriage risk by day. The reassuring part is that every day you can see the risk dropping dramatically. I like knowing that since I took my positive test, my personal chances of MC have already dropped from 27% to 20%, and in a few weeks time things will be a lot more secure. Sending you lots of love ❤

MummyToAnAngel2408 · 03/02/2020 11:08

Thank you all so much I really appreciate it xx

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