22, 6 weeks and I had the IUD. Partner struggles.

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I am 22 found out I am 6 weeks pregnant a few days ago - very shocked as I had the IUD. My partner of 2 years (same age as me) has had a hugely shocking and negative reaction to the pregnancy saying that he is not ready and it will ruin our lives. He is not incorrect as we don’t have ‘proper’ jobs, no house and have just graduated but I know we have such supportive families it would work and be a very happy baby. He has reacted in a way which has surprised me and both our families, he had an abortion with a previous partner when he was younger and I think this has triggered trauma from that in his brain. I have decided I want to keep the baby and I just don’t know how to tell him and hope he will come round and be the good dad I know he can be. Suppose I’m just posting to get some unbiased advice.

I’d suggest you prepare yourself to be a single mum. If he comes around then that is a bonus.

Well done for graduating! That is a bonus at your age as you have the start of a career to fall back on. Don’t lose sight of what you next steps would have been with regards to your career if you hadn’t fallen pregnant. They most likely are still achievable but just a little later than you’d have imagined.

Thank you

I had a few people text me. I read then but wasn’t up to replying.

It’s far more likely the friend is just flaky but I’d still say it’s better to get all the facts before wasting any mental energy getting annoyed.