Boyfriend doesn’t want baby?

[rhia22]

I am 22 found out I am 6 weeks pregnant a few days ago - very shocked as I had the IUD. My partner of 2 years (same age as me) has had a hugely shocking and negative reaction to the pregnancy saying that he is not ready and it will ruin our lives. He is not incorrect as we don’t have ‘proper’ jobs, no house and have just graduated but I know we have such supportive families it would work and be a very happy baby. He has reacted in a way which has surprised me and both our families, he had an abortion with a previous partner when he was younger and I think this has triggered trauma from that in his brain. I have decided I want to keep the baby and I just don’t know how to tell him and hope he will come round and be the good dad I know he can be.

What a tough situation for you. I think you just need sit him down and explain calmly that whilst you hear his concerns you are keeping the baby. It is your body and your choice and whilst you very much hope he will come round to the idea in time, you will do it with or without him.

I would tell him that he can be as involved or not as he wants to be and then give him time and space to work through how he feels about it. Unfortunately he needs work out for himself what kind of Dad he will be. If he would agree to go for counselling this could be very helpful for him.

It is scary doing it alone but totally achievable, especially as you sound like you have a good support network in place.

Hiya!
I can honestly tell you from experience I was in exactly the same situation!
After agreeing to let nature just do it thing and when falling pregnant happened we'd just let it happen my partner COMPLETELY switched up on me. 'No I don't want a baby, I'm not ready for this yet' i was in that much of a shock that he acted this way towards me and his child I couldn't even decide if keeping the baby was the best thing to do! After what seemed like forever constant arguments, upset, awfulness he finally got his head around it and is genuinely happy!
21 weeks today and we're both over the moon!
All I would suggest to do is just stick to your guns, and if you want this baby you have a supportive family if he chose to not stand by you anyway, but in all fairness it is probably just the shock of it, like it was with my partner and like many other people told me to!!
Don't worry OP stick to your guns and you will get through it I promise!! Xx