Hello, bit of a sensitive subject but for background I had an abortion 8 years ago when I was 18, my partner was a bit older at the time, and told me he was unable to have children so I didn’t need contraception and I foolishly believed him. He was lying and I later found out I’m not the first person he did this to.
I had terrible mental health at the time and suffered with anorexia and depression so the abortion was what I thought best for me at the time.
I was honest with my midwife and mentioned it when asked, it is noted in the notes on my phone app however not in my note book I was sent in the post.
Basically my partner is unable to attend my 12 week scan as he is away for work, so I’d like my mum to come with me.
The only thing is, I never mentioned the previous pregnancy to her, it still traumatises me to even mention and I’m scared it will be mentioned at the scan. I really don’t want to go to the scan alone but I don’t want to take my mum if this is brought up, I couldn’t face having to relive it and explain.
Please no harsh judgements as I’ve had to live with it for all these years and it was an awful time for me, and I really don’t want her to know.