Anyone with bleeding/fluid loss at 19 weeks?

[Lovesamash]

Never done this before so please excuse my over sharing but as you’d imagine, worried sick and trying to remain hopeful.

Since 8 weeks pregnant I have been having bleeding, spotting then increasing to what you’d suggest was a medium to heavy period - it has not stopped and I’m now 19 weeks. I’ve seen many consultants who all say ‘it’s a waiting game, let’s see how it goes’. I have had 10 scans with all coming back saying baby is developing etc in the way it should be. The fluid around baby is fluctuating and as of yesterday it was 1.8cm at its deepest pool, having reduced from 2.2cm on Monday.

We have been told the bleeding is coming from placenta which is low laying. If so, baby isn’t getting the nutrients is needs. They also suggest that we need to prepare ourselves for the worst as baby may not have developed lungs properly to survive, a potential miscarriage and/or possibly delivery at 23 weeks. If delivered at 23/24 weeks it would depend on the maturity of baby whether they would intervene.

I am beside myself. Baby’s heartbeat has been strong since we first heard it and aside from the above no other concerns.

I have been internet searching to see if anyone has or resembles my story with a positive ending. Therefore with my 20 week scan on Monday coming I am desperate to know if anyone went through this or something similar? Did you have a positive outcome? If so, what’s your story? If not, I am truly sorry and I seek guidance on how I may get through this.

I suspect the powers that be are waiting on me going into labour with baby coming on it’s own, to date there hasn’t been any sign of that. Midwives and everyone offering support suggest babies are tough and it’s a survivor we’ve got - I don’t know. I am beyond worried and fearful of the future.

Another scenario is potential terminating the pregnancy, I don’t know if we could do such a thing as baby has been giving us fight up till now.

Any information I would really appreciate - thank you!

I have no advice on this but didnt want to read and run. Sending you my prayers 💖

Aw thank you. That’s very kind

I've got no experience of this myself but I'm keeping everything crossed for you little one. I do know waters can regenerate. Did they say if bedrest would help?

I have some experience although not identical. In my first pregnancy I had a low lying placenta and had 2 spontaneous big bleeds at 20 and 21 weeks. I was admitted to hospital and monitored.

The bleeds stopped of their own accord. Baby's fluid levels were not affected and growth and heart rate remained good.

I had additional monitoring for the remainder of the pregnancy and delivered a healthy baby at term.

Your situation does sound more complicated as, if I've understood it correctly, baby's fluid levels have been affected and I did not have that complication.

I wish you well OP and I empathise. That pregnancy was the single most stressful thing I have ever gone through. Look after yourself.

Hi Lou and Sunshine, thanks for both replies. They’ve not mentioned anything in terms of pregnancy ending. I’ve been bleeding for 11 weeks now and it’s always been ‘let’s wait and see’, they suspect waters have gone as fluid reduced around baby. I’ve heard too that waters regenerate themselves through baby too. It’s just a worry and sadly, I have no way of attempting to predict an outcome. I’ve got all the symptoms of this stage of pregnancy and feel flutters, I guess our complications are indeed maybe too many to help baby survive. Thanks again. I’m sorry you had bleeding too but lovely to hear you delivered healthy baby.

I have been in hospital for a wee and had bed rest, it didn’t affect anything, blood and clots still came. Monitored me very well. I’ve to go back if bleeding gets worse or I get pain. I’ve never had any pain with bleeding.

It's very good you've had no pain with bleeding. Will they continue to scan you to check your fluid levels? If you get to 24 weeks I believe that there is a chance of baby surviving on the outside anyway.

I have no advice but didn’t want to read and run, crossing my fingers for you OP

Hopefully baby can stay cooking a little longer. Are you based in a major city and relatively near a neonatal unit? I worked in NICU briefly at the beginning of my career years back and saw many babies survive and do very well born at 21-22 weeks, albeit with some long term problems such as chronic lung issues. Hope all goes well x

Hi ladies just wanted to drop back in and thank you all for the virtual support you offered. Sadly at 20 weeks my beautiful baby was born sleeping. We’ve since had a PM (awaiting the outcome) and it’s not easy. I go from having days of acceptance to days where I am truly horrible to myself by placing blame and continually questioning everything. Not ready to go back to work but feeling the insane pressure. Weather is awful, life feels awful and I’m scared of losing everyone and everything around me.

Night before he was born I stood from my bed and lost what felt like my insides, it went on for over an hour and half. Following day no signs of life. Since then my world has been distorted and I’m struggling to hang on to normality.

But just thank you for being there and acknowledging me. It was truly appreciated and I am entirely grateful. Just thank you x

I am so so sorry to hear about your loss. Does your little boy have a name? I hope you are getting lots of support and love in real life. My thoughts and prayers are with you 💐

Very sorry to hear that. I hope you can get signed off from work for longer because you have a lot to get your head round. You must me emotionally drained.
Sleep tight little angel