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BigTWDFan · 31/01/2020 09:59

Sorry if in wrong thread, i have baby brain and couldn't work out where to put this Confused
So i'm nearly 32 weeks and already stressing about this subject.
When i had my first born i gave it 4 days for visitors to come, i had to give in to my uncle and aunty.
Second one was worse, the same aunty and uncle none stopped ringing and messaging me a day after my son was born, i had to firmly say no, so they moved on my husband, he did the same. They then moved on to pestering my parents, i felt so guilty and gave in to them 3 days after my son was born! Luckily they only stopped 2 hours because our loo is upstairs and my aunty can't walk very well.
All other family members and friends are brilliant, they ask me to tell them when its ok to come up, they offer to make drinks and help us out. But my aunty and uncle are so darn pushy, i remember stressing out that much that i know full well my son could tell because he was fidgety and crying alot.
How on earth do i stop these pushy annoying people? They literally pester none stop, me and my husband didn't mind when they did to us because we just turned our phones off, but to pester my parents and sister was too much.
This is my dads sister and even though hes very firm with her, he admits that shes always been the same, especially when it comes to seeing babys first.
Anyone been through the same and any advice you could give me would be so helpful, parents know how hard it is, especially when you have other children around and need to settle. Sorry for long rant x

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PixieDustt · 31/01/2020 10:08

I think you need to say now.
That once your LO is here there will be no visitors for x amount of days and if you get bombarded with calls/texts the visiting days will be pushed further back as you do not need added stress and want to enjoy your newborn cuddles.

If they can't appreciate that then they see baby last. Oh and just block them for a few days.

Delbelleber · 31/01/2020 10:21

Maybe you could tell them a week then if you feel like it after 4 days you could say to them they can come early

Wanderer1 · 31/01/2020 12:46

Don't tell them baby has arrived until a week later 😃

BigTWDFan · 31/01/2020 13:15

Good ideas, might have a word before baby comes, and tell them if i am pestered, then i will keep pushing them a few days. If not then i'll have to keep the baby quiet. Annoying when you get people like this

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