12 weeks and panicking about MMC

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I'll be 12 weeks pregnant on Saturday and had 2 early scans at 6 and 8 weeks where I heard a strong heartbeat both times. I've still got all the same pregnancy symptoms so nothing untoward other than a gut feeling

This last few days, I've just started feeling really anxious and I've somehow managed to convince myself I've had a MMC. It's all I can think about! I've been googling it and reading threads on here and basically just driving myself insane.

I'm 37 and this is my first pregnancy and it happened so quick for us, it just all seems too easy. I feel like something is bound to go wrong.

I still haven't got a date for my dating scan yet so I think stressing over that is what's started all of this as I'm not sleeping and overthinking all the time.

Anyone else feeling like this?

I could have written this post lol. After 2 early miscarriages I had scan 6 weeks and then again at 8 weeks...all good but my anxiety was through the roof!
Was constantly googling signs of a mmc , reading about them. Convinced myself of multiple occasions I'd had one.
I had minimal pregnancy symptoms so that was in the back of my mind as I was worried that I should have felt awful.
Anyways I had my 12 week scan Monday when I was 13 + 2 and all was good !
It doesn't do yourself any good worrying but I know it's so hard! It's natural I guess as you just don't know what's going on.
I'm sure you'll be okay just as I was l

Try to stay calm. Go to the maternity hospital in the morning.
I suffered terrible anxiety on my first the entire pregnancy, she is 11 years old now.
Keep calm pregnancy is a very anxious time for many between cramps, discharge all the other worries.

I was exactly the same! Had 3 scans even before my 12 week and everything was fine but still convinced myself every time that it was going to be bad news. Statistically though, if you’ve got a good heartbeat at 8 weeks, the chance of anything going wrong drops right down.
Get in touch with your midwife though as I’m surprised you haven’t had your dating scan date through yet; it will definitely help put your mind to rest.
(Although I say that, we still had a 16 week scan to get us through to 20 weeks!) 🤦🏼‍♀️

I lost a baby just before 12 week scan after seeing a heartbeat at 7 weeks. That said I did have lots of brown cm throughout and one large streak of red which prompted me to go for a private scan. I knew something was wrong. I didn't lose it naturally but I started having pains in my stomach. There are usually some signs so if you've had scans and seen a heartbeat and you're not bleeding you are very very likely fine.

The chances of miscarriage drop significantly once you have seen a heartbeat. However, I would be chasing up that scan date. You should have it all booked in by now. I'll be 12 weeks on Tuesday and got my scan letter a good fortnight ago.

I had two missed miscarriages in a row before my DS was born. The first one I had no symptoms whatsoever until I reached 11 weeks when I had some brown spotting. The midwife tried to dismiss brown as ‘normal old blood’ and told me not to worry but I instinctively knew something was wrong and it was. Second time I was an anxious mess so had two early scans at 6 and 8 weeks, saw a strong heartbeat both times so thought everything would be ok. Got to the 12 week scan and it had died at 9 weeks. That time I was totally blindsided because I didn’t have spotting at all and I didn’t have cramps either time. I spent lots of time dwelling on the second MMC though and realised my pregnancy symptoms had disappeared at around 9 weeks. I didn’t think much of it at the time but after realising that’s when I’d miscarried it made sense.

There are usually signs of missed miscarriage, they just get overlooked or dismissed as normal. It’s also worth noting that only 2% of miscarriages are missed miscarriages so in all likelihood you will be fine. Good luck with the scan .

I'm feeling a little more relaxed and slightly less anxious than when I posted this yesterday and just wanted to say a big thank you to those that replied with advice, words of wisdom and personal experiences. I appreciate it.

I'm truly sorry to those of you who have experienced a MMC.

I think the lack of a scan date is making me feel worse so will chase up again today as I'm 12 weeks tomorrow! I did ring up on Monday and they basically said I just needed to be patient and wait for the letter to arrive.

I too convinced myself I had a mmc especially with no early scans. But baby was tucked away safely. I was so sure that I was surprised to see a baby. Sometimes I think a gut feeling is just irrational anxiety! Hopefully you get your scan through soon.

P.s. I never received a letter for my scan, just a text 2 days before!

Update - I got my letter through the post, scan is in 12 days time which will make me just under 14 weeks! That seems so late....fingers crossed I can keep my anxiety in check till then.

I had my first scan at 13+6 and it was actually really nice to see baby looking more "formed"! Like you, I also had two scans prior to this and I was really worried about MMC as I know a few people who've had them.
Just remember the odds are in your favour and you will have a shorter time between your dating and anomaly scan now!

@thosethreewords thank you for replying, I really do hope the odds are in my favour

I've finally got my dating scan today after weeks of crippling anxiety and i could really do with a handhold.
I'm just terrified it's going to be bad news.
Any tips on how to get through today without a complete meltdown? My appointment isn't till half 6 this evening 🙈

Good luck today! I understand your anxiety completely.

Keep busy, try and focus on something else and remember it will more than likely all be fine 😊 Please let us know how you get on!

Good luck!! I have my 12 week one tomorrow and I’ve been so anxious ! Please let us know how you get on. I had a scan at 7+6 (private for own sanity) and a private one after being poorly I’m hospital with seizures at 10+1 and both times things were perfect , strong heartbeat and could see the baby moving about at 10 weeks! but I’m still a nervous wreck about tomorrow ! Good luck xx

Thanks ladies. I'll let you all know how it goes x

Good luck! I was the same, so anxious about my 12 week scan. Everything was fine but now I've got my 20 week scan in 4 weeks and started stressing about that one now!

Just to update that tonight's scan went so well and baby is looking just perfect! Can't explain the relief I felt when we saw the heartbeat!
Baby measuring 13+6 .
Good luck to those with scans coming up soon.

I was lurking....thanks for the lovely update. Good luck.

@ProperVexed thank you so much