How do I cope

[KSmith99]

This is a little saddening but I really need advice.
I'm 20 and found out I was pregnant last Wednesday after my period was late, told my mum (Partner already knew) on the Saturday (a few people know now) and then all of a sudden, Tuesday morning, I start bleeding.

Wednesday morning I go to my doctor's, all seems fine and then later that night, the pain starts. I wouldn't say it was overly painful as I've had worse periods but that night the bleeding got worse and I passed a few clots (I panicked and went into shock so I can't be certain I didn't see anything else). I am fairly sure I lost the pregnancy that night.

Went in again today for an emergency appointment and the doctor got me to do another pregnancy test that was a strong positive and basically told me that I have to wait two more weeks and then do another test to see if it's survived.

This is my very first and was obviously a suprise but I was excited. But now I am almost sure I've lost it at only 6 weeks and having to wait for another 2 weeks to know is almost tearing me apart.
Any advice on how to cope, especially if the enevitable happens and I have in fact lost it?

Unfortunately all you can do is wait did you not get sent to the early pregnancy unit at your local hospital they can scan you there to see if you still have a sack yolk many women bleed during pregnancy i did with my 3rd was constantly ringing hospital panicking turns out it was always within 24 hours of having sex and everytime I had intercourse I bled. At the minute I'm 28 weeks pregnant with my 4tbmy friend is a week in front and she's only had 2 weeks through her whole pregnancy where she hasn't bled she was sure on numerous times she's lost baby due to amount of blood but baby is fine. My advice would be to try rest and keep occupied for the next two weeks the waiting is the hardest bit all you can do is look after yourself and see what the doctor says in two weeks or try get in at epu for an early scan you can ring hospital yourself explain your 6wedks gone but have been bleeding and want to be checked. Good luck hope everything works out for you x

I’m sorry to hear that you are going through this. I have had two losses in the past and it is so difficult. I was given a scan which confirmed my loss and although it was the worst experience ever, I was able to accept that it had happened and start trying to move on. Can you perhaps request a scan or book in for a private one to give you some closure and save you having to go through 2 weeks of wondering whether the pregnancy has survived or not?

By the way.... I’m now almost 25 weeks pregnant and have had on n off bleeding throughout so try and stay positive as it doesn’t always mean the end x

@Mummylanie3 The doctor told me today that they wouldn't see me because it was too early and the doctor I saw yesterday asked me if I wanted to but warned me that they might not be able to find it anyway. I didn't take the option then because I wasn't worried.

@ksmith99 I was scanned at 5 weeks 4days they found a sack and fetal pole but no heartbeat but a week later they rescanned me and heartbeat was there it's the heartbeat they may not see depends how far on you are but at 5/6 weeks they would see a sack and yolk. It may just give you your answer sooner as it can take 2 -4 weeks to get a negative test after a misscarrige. Did they take any bloods they can also do that every 48hours as the HCG levels should double every 48 hours or if your having a misscarrige or have had one then they would drop

@mummylanie3 nope, no blood tests either :/ beginning to think my local doctor's surgery isn't very thorough as the first doctor wrote in his notes he told me to ring the emergency number if I experienced any pain which he certainly did not

@MLP123 thank you for the assurance, I'll be trying my best to stay positive but I don't want to remain too hopeful only to be disappointed again. I'm also going to look into my local epu

@ksmith99 ring your local hospital ask to be put through to epu then explain to them about the bleeding pain and clots you may get answer phone at this time but leave a message and they will ring u back

Has be bleeding settled now?

@Goodebe no, it has lessened but not stopped and I also have brief bursts of pain but even that is still mild and not overly painful

The only other option you have is to book in for an early reassurance scan with a private company such as window to the womb. They do them from 6 weeks. But will cost you about £80 at the least it'll put your mind at rest. At worst it'll pick up on any concerns that can be dealt with. Hope it's good news for you.

@KSmith99

So so sorry! How stressful, clots aren't good I know this from two miscarriages but my friend had same and her baby was fine when she went for scan she had a haemotoma (spelt wrong) blood build up and then clots and blood came out. She told everyone she'd miscarried but found out her little girl was fine. So there is some hope.

Are you in America ? Here in uk they would scan you at the EPU, then they can see and also make sure if you have miscarried that there isn't any retained tissue, is it your doctor is old Skool and doesn't send you in, our that it's not procedure where you are?

Goodluck x

@Jojowash I am in the UK. This is copied from an above reply:

The doctor told me today that they wouldn't see me because it was too early and the doctor I saw yesterday asked me if I wanted to but warned me that they might not be able to find it anyway. I didn't take the option then because I wasn't worried.

I might continue to monitor my bleeding for a few days and take a test in a week, and if it still shows a strong positive, ask to be booked in for an early scan asap but I'm still weighing my options and if it might be best just to be patient

Op ring maternity triage at your local hospital or go to A&E I did and was sent for a scan. All was OK with me thankfully but wasn't clotting. Fingers crossed for you but don't wait 2 weeks it will drive you mad

I was scanned at seven weeks at EPU, hopefully the bleeding settles and you can have a scan in a week or so. Such a worrying time, I’ve been there.