Should I not annouce on Facebook in fear of upsetting my best friend?

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I was planning on just doing a small post announcing that I'm pregnant, just for family and friends who I don't see often (not planning on spamming baby/pregnancy related things at all).

My problem is, my best friend is not happy that I am pregnant for many reasons. She has not brought up my pregnancy since I told her in December. Should I just ignore this and post it anyway?

Yes 🤷‍♀️
She has to deal with her own issues, you can’t just hide away for the sake of one person.
I don’t know her reasons however she has the choice to hide you from her feed, along with anything else she chooses not to see.

Basically you shouldn’t control your social media to suit her, it’s up to her

If you really want to announce on Facebook just make the post but exclude it from her in the settings of the post. I do this frequently. She doesn't get arsey, you tell your distant relatives.

Yes announce it if you want, she needs to deal with it.

Your best friend is "not happy" that you're pregnant? It's an interesting word choice. If she's upset because she's been trying and can't, I can see that being hard for her. But the wording seems to suggest she doesn't think you should be pregnant? In which case, why are you even considering her feelings.

A small post on facebook seems perfectly reasonable to me. If as a PP has suggested there's a way to exclude her, maybe do that but I don't think you need to change everything you do.

It depends why she's 'not happy'. If it's because she's struggling with infertility or loss then I'd say speak to her first, still post but be sensitive.
On the other hand if it's something petty then go for it.

Why should you post and celebrate your pregnancy?

You can stop your friend seeing the post of you wish on Facebook

Whatever your friends issues are, she is going to have to deal with it.

Hmmm, people are being a bit brutal. If your friend is hurt because they've had losses or are experiencing fertility issues it's a bit different from them just being a jerk for the sake of making you feel bad.

I personally don't see the need to post about pregnancies on social media. But to each their own.

She’s not much of a best friend if she’s unhappy you’re pregnant.

Do the announcement and don’t let her spoil a wonderful time in your life.

Erm yes?

Basically she has some mental health issues and is not happy about me being pregnant because she thinks that I am going to abandon her. She also dislikes children (doesn't want any of her own).

I know it's silly to even consider tip-toeing around her, but I just don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. I feel I will end up posting and possibly blocking it from her view.

She's not tip toeing around you or your feelings so why tip toe around her?

So far she's said she doesn't like children and she has told you she isn't happy your pregnant. This baby is coming wether she likes it or not and will be your whole world.

Sounds like she will be quite stressful for you after the baby is born.

In this case I think you should just post and not even worry about blocking it from her feed. If the issue was that she was going through grief after losing her own baby then I would perhaps suggest some more discretion.

Your friendship is going to change when the baby comes along. So the sooner she gets used to this the better. From what you have said I would prepare yourself for her playing up a bit once the baby is born to try and get your attention.

In general I'm not a fan of FB announcements because I think most people have someone on their friends list whose heart will sink - whether they're aware of it or not.

But in this case, I wouldn't hold off because of your friend. She is going to have to accept that your friendship is going to change, because you will simply have less time to spend on other people.

Yes announce it on fb and enjoy some positive comments. She doesn't some very nice

We have fertility issues. I get very emotional when people announce they are pregnant. Simply because it brings home how hard it is for us. I'm genuinely delighted for friends and family who have new babies! facebook allows me to grieve for me, and then be delighted for them in person.

Post what you like, and congratulations!

In this case you should defo post it. You wont be able to tip toe around the baby when its actually here.

Definitely post. If she had fertility issues or had suffered a loss then I’d be more mindful but she just sounds like a selfish idiot.

If you want to post and celebrate your pregnancy publicly, then go for it!
If she chooses to ignore the topic/turn off your notifications etc then that is her prerogative. Don't let her stop you from enjoying this special time however you wish.

I had 4 years of fertility issues and was always pained by pregnancy posts and jealous and sad. I still decided to post my own announcement when I finally conceived because it was my right to celebrate too.

I also found it more painful to be excluded from pregnancy posts and then suddenly see someone had a child and i'd not been informed for the entire 9 months which could have eased the pain.

I agree with everyone else on this thread. Your friend sounds like she is being extremely selfish and is being completely unreasonable even letting you know that she has negative emotions about your pregnancy! News flash: she is not the be all and end all of your life and you do not owe her keeping your own happiness and exciting life events to yourself because she cannot deal with them because of her own personal issues. I say post it and maybe start to create a few boundaries with this friend because as someone else said I can see her stressing you out a LOT when you are later in pregnancy and when baby arrives. This should be a happy time for you - do not let her make you feel guilty about her lack of ability to manage her own emotions. Maybe I'm coming across harsh but you will be pregnant once or twice in your life and this baby will be your absolute world when it arrives so someone behaving like her will not last long in your new life stage and she needs to either deal with it like an adult and a friend or step away.

Yes go ahead and announce it - your friend should be happy for you despite her own circumstances although I appreciate it will be difficult for her. She will have to learn to deal with it, sorry I know that sounds harsh but that's the reality x