Everything feels surreal

[ConstantlyPanicking]

Hi,

I have recently found out I'm pregnant, currently between 6-7 weeks and everything feels like its happening around me but I am in a bubble. I think constantly and worry constantly. It was an unexpected pregnancy and partner is still trying to get his head around it all. He suffers massively with anxiety which I didn't feel was helping so have taken some time away from it to reduce stress, so am staying with family.

Children was a part of our plan and our future but has come a lot sooner than expected. I'm not even sure if half of the things I'm worrying about are things I need to be thinking about at this stage!

Can anyone give some solid advice? Any tips would be massively reassuring. Thank you x

I also had a surprise pregnancy that happened a lot earlier than we expected. I also have anxiety and felt very very strange for the first 3 months. It’s completely normal. Once I had the first scan and I saw the little one dancing around, it felt like it became real. Since then I’ve still been anxious about the pregnancy but I feel a lot better in terms of that surreal feeling. It’s normal to worry about things (I’ve worried about things waaaaay off in the future) as you care about the wellbeing of your baby and you want the best for it. It’s part of being a good mum (as long as it’s not crippling to you). If things don’t improve or become overwhelming then please talk to your midwife to get support. As for your partner, it might be worth him seeking help. It’s good to support but if it’s more serious then he needs to reach out for help. Sometimes partners get a bit forgotten on the journey as the focus becomes more on the mother. It’s still early days and there’s lots of time yet to get that help and support in place. Perhaps not the most useful advice I’ve given but just so you know you aren’t alone.

@Lovelostnfoundx That advice is great thank you. I know that I will get my head around it eventually but am worried about worrying about him! Maybe I should suggest to him about getting support too. Thanks again

I found talking to some friends who have recently had babies really helpful. The one friend in particular is very much the most logical grounded person and I was really surprised to find she went through the exact same irrational thoughts! Really helped me to put my anxiety about anxiety in perspective! Wishing you the best of luck and hopefully soon you will begin to enjoy the experience!

Hi Op.
I know exactly how you feel! I had a surprise pregnancy to, me and my partner both wanted children but just didn't expect that to happen this soon.
My partner was an emotional mess, crying 'I'm not ready for a baby yet' even said if I was to keep the baby he didn't know if he would stand by me.
This caused me to just really get myself into a huge mess, to the point I even thought I was going to have to terminate, I booked an appointment and everything.
Day of the appointment I realised I couldn't go. My partner did say whatever I did decide to do he would support me but I still found it hard to make a choice when he wasn't exactly being the most helpful!
So I booked an appointment at BPAS for a session to talk things through, and if really made me realise that things needed to be my choice.
After scans ect my partner came around and now we're both happy.
All I would advice is stick to your guns if you want this baby and he WILL come around I promise you. Good luck!! Xx