Cleft lip & baby's stomach is small

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Up to today, I have had the most wonderful Pregnancy. I feel baby rolling and kicking daily. At our 20 week scan today, they told us baby has a cleft lip on both sides, and at first they couldn't detect a stomach. We were referred to a consultant who could only see a very very tiny stomach, she also said it looks like the baby's heart is bigger on one side, but could've been the baby's position. we have now been referred again to another hospital in London but not until Friday so we still don't have any proper results and we just don't know how to feel.

Does anyone have any experience or success stories in any of these things? What does a small stomach actually mean for the baby? We just have no idea.

Thank you x

I’m so sorry for your sad news x

I look after a little boy who was born with a clef lip and I honestly did not realise until his mum told me. Even then it's only a faint white line on his lip and his speech is totally normal so fingers crossed that will all be okay with your baby. I have no idea about the small stomach maybe go prepared with some questions to next scan? Sending positive thoughts

I'm so so sorry only half the thread had loaded when I replied. Such a terrible time for you I can't imagine how you are feeling right now but I'm sending a virtual hug

I'm so sorry OP, when will you get the amnio results?

I am so sorry OP. This must be devastating. No advice but hugs

I'm so sorry to read this update. Sending you and be kind to yourself xx

I’m sorry. It’s really hard to deal with. I suspect the stomach is small, in part, because of an enlarged heart and weakness in the diaphragm.
No words and only you can know the right decision for you. Quality of life is entirely subjective but the real issue is more the impact on you.

Unfortunately, many babies with significant anomalies don’t survive to term anyway. A late, unplanned pregnancy loss is both emotionally very hard to deal with (as is a planned loss) but can be physically quite risky to the mother.

Hopefully you have good support in real life.

So sorry OP. Have you made a decision already or are you awaiting amnio results? An impossible choice for you. I second ARC as a good sounding board for your thoughts x

I am so sorry to hear this, sending big hugs op ❤️

So sorry to hear your devastating news. Thinking of you. 💐💐

So sad to read this. Sending love to you and your partner ❤️❤️❤️

So sorry

Sorry to hear your news. Wishing you strength for whatever lies ahead xx

so sorry xx

I'm so sorry OP

Thinking of you tonight - I’m so sorry

You poor thing. What a shitty situation. I've nothing to offer other than a hand hold

My daughter is friends with a boy who was born with a cleft lip. I must say I would never have know if it hadn't come up in conversation with his parents. The difference they made was incredible.

Oh god I'm so so sorry- I didn't read the full thread. I will be thinking of you all. I'm sorry.

I’m so sorry. Sending love to you all.

I'm so sorry for you - very similar happened to a close relative and it was very tough. Sending you strength and love

I am so sorry 💐

So sorry to read your update OP. Please take any support offered to you from friends , family and professionals . I hope you and your DH find the strength during this very tough time . Sending you so many hugs x

I'm really sorry to read your update . A family member had a TFMR after a 20 week scan showed problems which were confirmed to be HLHS. Please please make sure you accept and reach out for all the support available to you x

I'm so so sorry to read this thread. I cannot even begin to imagine how you must be feeling or the hell you've been through this week! Sending lots of love and comfort to you and I hope that you get your answers ASAP. I just can't even imagine your pain right now 💔