I love wine, Am I alone?

[mumzyof2]

Am I the only one that cant stop drinking altogether? I have half a glass mixed with lemonade, every other night or so. No wine at all just seems...so cruel?!

I love wine when not pregnant, but it is one of the first things I went off. A couple of nights ago somebody offered me some wine in my dream and the smell made me feel so sick I woke up. I thought I'd never drink again in my life again....

But I would drink the occasional glass, you know in moderation, if I could. But I can't.

It's also important to remember the fairly high proportion of women who drink during the first few weeks of PG - and drink heavily - because they don't know that they are PG. I was one of them (DS totoally unplanned and unexpected) and yet DS is fine and healthy. So it's a risk not a certainty. Obviously anyone who feels that they would rather not take any risk at all is entitled to suit themselves, but what aggravates me is the way some people take it upon themselves to bully pregnant women about damn near everything. Our bodies, our babies - our business.

Madamez Well said!!!

pregnant or not, if you cannot stop drinking, and find the thought of not drinking difficult, maybe there is a deeper issue?

I know this probably sounds terrible but what about mixed with soda water 50/50 at first it is not great but after a while it is ok

Lulumama, well that is, of course, a possiblity. But it doesn't strike me as unreasonable to take a considered look at the risks and decide to carry on as normal (a glass of wine once a week or so) on the grounds that pregnancy is not an illness.

i quite agree madamez, but not being able to stop drinking just caught my attention

Agree with Madamez.

I craved cider when pregnant and drank a glass or two at the weekends. I found the taste of wine too concentrated and strong, so I had the odd glass mixed with soda 50/50.

DS has turned out ok... he just got 6 As, 1 A star and a B for his GCSEs.

Mumzyof2 you are definitely not alone!! I really missed drinking whilst pregnant and altho I avoided alcohol altogether for the first 12 weeks (once I found out I was preggars) I did then have one drink a week (which was about 2 units) at weekends which I really looked forward to and enjoyed. The government guidelines then (and I only had my daughter this May) were that 1 or 2 units once or twice a week was fine. I think they've changed the guidelines now to no drink at all! Really at the end of the day the baby is either going to be healthy or not and so long as people are sensible about alcohol and everything else (ie eating well, resting and not getting stressed...) then there's not a lot more you can do. I had a missed miscarriage with my first pregnancy and didn't find out until 14 weeks at the scan. I had had no alcohol at all and had been ultra careful about everything. I realised then that the miscarriage had nothing to do with anything that I had or had not done and that it's not worth obsessing over everything because some things are out of our control.

drink or don't drink. it's your own choice, no-one else's.

nothing upsets me more than the way its acceptable to judge a women on her behaviour once she's pregnant. awful awful stuff

there's a nasty mysogyny to it - it reeks of woman-becomes-nothing-more-than-carrier

it's a cheap easy way for people to feel - what? smug? claiming a moralistic high ground. when in fact same people would be better off spending their free time perhaps doing voluntary work helping already born underprividged kids, or helping kids with already-diagnosed illnesses ... a slightly tougher, but less nasty, way for said people to look after the next generation

i respect everyone who gives up drinking when pg, i really do. esp if they find it dif to do so. me, i'm still drinking. more than the 4 units per week thing, but lots less than my bottle of vino a day pre-pregnancy and ultimately, it's mine and the husband's business only!

a defensive post i know, just really gets my back up.

have a look at Zoe William's article in the Guardian. Interesting, funny and a bit reassuring. I have found since I got pregnant (24 weeks tomorrow) the entire world seems to want to tell me what to do!!!

Luckily both my GP and midwife think that the latest 'No alcohol at all in case you find you just can't stop you wicked lady' type advice is silly and based on no new research at all.

Midwife says that an intelligent, professional woman (doesn't know me that well lol) should be able to make own decisions and exercise control over the matter...

So the odd wee glass of wine for me.

oops forgot the link. and no I haven't been drinking!!!!!

society.guardian.co.uk/health/story/0,,2090058,00.html

ty chunky pudding - great link

now - just got to memorise the science part

Guess it depends on the size of the glass.. if it's only 1 unit, then I reckon fine.. if it's half a pint then possibly a little too much :-p

Personally only having a drink once or twice a fortnight, just when I fancy it. Used to love red wine and now it tastes disgusting. Have found that lager now tastes the same as it did when I was little and was allowed a taste of my Dad's beer. very strange..

I drank wine and Guinness sometimes in all my pregnancies; not every night or anything and I often went for weeks without. I went to few weddings while pregnant last year and drank very weak white wine spritzers
I know a few doctors and they've all told me the odd glass of wine (or two) is harmless. I found having a nice glass of red before bed helped me get some badly needed sleep toward the end of my pregnancies.
On the other hand I would never knock back vodka/tequila shots.

I used to love a few glasses of wine a week before I was pg, but now have an odd bottle of alcohol-free beer (it's 0.05% alcohol, so is as near as damn-it alcohol free) instead.
Don't really miss guzzling wine. However, now I'm 34 weeks I'm quite looking forward to having a glass of bubbly after the baby's arrived.