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Why am I so worried:(??

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Bittersweet12 · 28/01/2020 14:37

Good afternoon girls!
I think it's just my hormones playing up as I'm 20+1 and I have had some real emotional outbursts more so this last few weeks.
So we haven't known for long that I've actually been pregnant so I haven't told my place of work yet, (I'm going to this week don't worry!) but I'm just feeling that I will be super judged, usually I wouldn't care about anything like that, like I said maybe it's just the hormones!
Bit of background I'm 22, my partner is 21.
We met when we was 13, had a little bit of a fling when we was both around 15 for a month or so but then obviously both was just young, so wasn't serious or anything. We stayed friends after this speaking now and then until we crossed paths again properly later in life!
So we we then started seeing each other for around a year, but spent almost ever day together straight away was basically like we was official but didn't make it official until June 2018.
Around 6 months after this we basically lived together at each other's houses, before deciding to get our first home together June 2019.
October 2019 we got engaged and June 2020 we're expecting a baby. So realistically we've been together around 3 years. But known each other 9 years or so.
I feel like because of our age and the length of time we've actually been together, when people start to know about this pregnancy we're going to get judged, and as much as it doesn't matter what people say I just can't help but worry about it:(
Has anyone else ever felt this worried about that?
Or has anyone had a situation similar to mine and had a really positive out come??

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Bonsaigem · 28/01/2020 14:51

Hello!

Are you happy about he pregnancy?

Is your partner?

If those answers are yes, then you need to think that this is the only thing that is important. If people want to judge you they will, no matter what! People who care about you will be happy or standby you whatever.

I am in a similar situation, but MUCH older and expecting to get massively judged! But I have got my head around it and just want to get on with telling people. I came out of a awful divorce and have been with my new man less than 2 years. I have 3 kids and now at 39.5 I have another one on the way 12 weeks tomorrow. He/She was planned, and I know my parents don't want me to get pregnant (they don't know yet) because they just think kids are too much hard work and they think I have my life sorted. But...It is my life, as yours is yours! You must not feel worried or guilty about something as beautiful as having a baby!!

Honestly!! Please don't worry xx

Bittersweet12 · 28/01/2020 14:57

@Bonsaigem hello. It got off to a little bit of a rocky start at the start of finding out I was pregnant due to it being a shock to the both of us but my and my partner managed to work through that shock and are now very much happy, my parents do know about the pregnancy and they are very much happy to!
I never really get overly concerned about anyone else's judgment and just usually get on with it, I think like I mentioned maybe it's my hormones because I've been SUPER emotional over literally nothing!
And it's helpful to know your in a similar situation but just getting on with it, you deserve to be happy after having a divorce and like you said if your happy the people around you should be happy for you to!
Thank you so much for the supportive response and best of lucky with your pregnancy! Congratulations by the way❤️

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Bittersweet12 · 28/01/2020 15:35

Roberta
Thank you so so much for the words of encouragement, your right no matter what I will get judged! I just feel because we haven't been together years and year and years people may judge this, and then it makes me start to doubt thinking oh have we been together long enough?
Me and my partner have been through a lot together and always managed to stick together so hopefully this will continue no matter what.
Thank you so much again for your lovely message! Xx

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