Pregnancy

[Mercymars]

hello
I came here as i dont have anyone to talk to about this but i have recently missed my period so i just thought my cycle was changing but then i got worried so i decided to buy a pregnancy test (my first one), i bought these strips from pound land and they had two lines but one was very faint.
i then decided to take another one but this time it was a stick from body care (clear and simple) this one showed pregnant as well but way more clear. does this officially mean im pregnant??
I'm 19 years old, so like i have no idea how to tell my mother or even when. i have told my partner but i am just so scared to announce it, i dont feel ready but there is nothing else to do, i have always wanted kids just not this early and i do not believe in abortions.
When with my partner i am always using protection, so im just in shock really..
also i know nothing about pregnancy, i work as well so i am not sure when to tell my workplace either or if i even should.
anyways I'm just rambling at this point.
if anyone could give some advice that would be very much appreciated

That looks like a strong positive. I am also 19 and have recently just had a baby. If you contact your gp they can make you an appointment with a midwife, they'll work out roughly how far along you are and book you in for a scan. You should tell your work as soon as possible so they can do a risk assessment. You should tell family etc whenever you feel ready to, it's best to get as much support as you can.

My partner had told me not to tell my workplace as i wanted to leave a while back i have just been scared to hand in my resignation, so he told me to stay for a month or two more and then leave but like wouldn't that be dangerous as i replenish stock i dont want them putting me on something heavy. With contacting my GP i am really nervous as idk what to say and how to to wait until i should tell my mother.
I will see what happens and maybe research more into my work etc
thank youu

Congratulations by the way

I worked in retail and was on stock they only went through what could pose a risk and changed my department. With the gp you just ask for an appointment with a midwife they're really nice and supportive. I was scared at first as none of it was planned and did not know what to expect. It's nice to have support from close family and friends but you should only tell people when you feel ready to.
Good luck

Thank you, I might leave it for a while to first build up the courage but I'm sure it'll be fine.
Thank you anyways!

Do you think your mother will be cross with you?

Have you calculated how far gone you likely are? There is an NHS calculator for this which goes by your last period which you can google to do this.

In most areas the process is simple and you refer yourself to the community midwives (you can call your GP receptionist desk to ask how to do this) and the midwives will later contact you to arrange your first appointment which is to mainly get your health history etc plus bloods/urine and to explain the process to you. I found out about my pregnancy at 4 weeks and saw the midwife at 8 weeks. Most people don’t tell work until about 12 weeks (legally you have to tell them at 25 weeks I believe so there’s loads of time).

Are you worried about your mums reaction? Do you live with her? If not then it will be easier to hide it until you get your head around it all of course.

I advise going on a website called essential parent which has lots of info about pregnancy and babies etc which will lay out the important bits for you.

Hope that helps x

Not cross, she is very accepting and all that I just feel like it is something she would not expect of me.. like we aren't super close. I just wouldn't know how to tell her. She never asked when I was due for my period but she has recently and it's kind of putting me on the spot and I feel so bad

Idk how far I am but I will check that out.
I'm not sure if I could secretly call my GP and do all this or tell me mum which I am sure she would help me.
Oh okay that gives me some time then before I found out about this I was thinking of handing my resignation in about 2 months ( they say it is best to leave after working for 7 ) so I guess I can hand that in and not worry about telling them... I dont know.
And with my mother I am worried about how she would react because I feel like she doesn't expect this from me until I'm a bit older.. I live with my mum and my siblings aswell.
Anyways thank you I will check out that NHS calculator and have a look at the website.
Thank you alot for the advice xx

As for work you don't need to tell them until you are 25weeks. But if u tell them sooner maybe after first scan or before they have to make accommodations for u to make sure u and baby stay healthy. Also staying in ur current job as long as u earn over £118 a week and have been there for 3 months already from now means u will get maternity pay from the company

I could have literally wrote this post myself a while back, first of all good job on finding mumsnet, I never knew of it until after birth so you’ve just opened yourself up to a whole new level of support which is especially great whilst you’re keeping it quiet but also in the later months when you feel no one will understand you but other pregnant people.

So firstly congratulations!

I was 20 and super scared to tell my parents but honestly it was one massive relief when I finally plucked up the courage, I told them when I was 14 weeks, on Christmas Day, I wrapped up my scan in a frame, let them open it and that’s how they found out, so that could be an idea for you? A birthday or Mother’s Day would do or just any day as a spontaneous present. It makes it a lot easier because you’re not just sitting them down and saying it, and it’s quite cute.

As for work, you don’t need to tell them until you’re ready, unless you need to because of risks, as you said you don’t want to be lifting heavy stock, I work where I would have to lift heavy stock from time to time, but I managed to get out of it for three months with all sorts of excuses like I’ve hurt my back, or I would ask one of the guys if they would go get it instead. But if this isn’t an option for you you don’t need to tell the entire of work, just your boss and whoever deals with health and safety, they’re not aloud to spread the news so you can still tell your colleagues on your terms.

You're so sweet thank you!!
I started putting questions through on google and found this website so I decided to make an account a post because I dont have anyone to tell.
That sounds like a good idea tbh I'm still scared to tell my mum I mean I know she would help me out an all but she just doesn't expect this from me and it's scary like I can just imagine the whole conversation 😭
I already have back problems and my work knows about it and luckily enough they have put me on a lighter either health and beauty which includes baby (ironically enough lol)
So I think that should be fine.
I've wanted to leave here for a while now so I think after 2 or 3 months I should just hand in my resignation... because i know after birth i wont work (my partner wont let me) and yeah idk.. still trying to figure things out

Anyways thank you so much for you response i didn't know I would get any to be honest I thought it would be ignored and lost.

U could just stay til ur 29weeks then go on maternity leave that's the earliest u can. Then up get SMP and as long as it's just standard maternity pay u can just hand ur notice in in the usual way 8 weeks before ur due back off maternity leave and u will still get paid all holidays u are entitled too which still build up as normal on maternity leave

Firstly congratulations!
You don't need to call a GP, you can do a self referral online and a midwife will call you with the date for your first appointment.

Tell people when you feel comfortable. Your head must be in a lot of different places now and it's important you come to terms with it before anyone gives you their opinion and confuses you even more.

You don't have to inform your employer until 11 weeks before your due date so don't feel under pressure to. A lot of people wait until 13 week scan and screening test before sharing with outside world as that's when you can be sure things are going okay!

You're in the right place for support and information, take it easy and enjoy this!

Congratulations again x

Hi OP. I know poster just prior to me said you dont need to tell the GP, you just fill out a form online, so I thought I'd better let you know that it depends what area you are in as to the procedure for seeing the midwife. In my area you do have to call the GP. I other areas it's just a form you fill out online then get sent an appointment.

What did you mean 'your partner won't let you work'?

Also remember to take folic acid tablets even if you aren't telling anyone or seeing a midwife yet.

Hi guys update here if anyone else joins in
So I was at work and I thought (this is a bit tmi by the way ) I had discharge so I just kept working. I went to the toilets and found blood in my pants... I got really upset and confused because you know I thought I was pregnant.. is this normal?? I also ( for previous comments) used the nhs calculator thing the other day and I am I think 4 weeks +along maybe 5 soon so yeah. Someone please help

Ring 111 or get the app for medical advice. Don't ignore your symptoms. Everything will be ok but take some medical advice.