Babies and sleep?

[Aimzxo]

Looking for some sleep advice

Let me start by saying my baby is 4 days old and I am in no way trying to get her in a routine of any sort (doubt I could when shes this young anyway)

Shell only sleep on me or in our bed at night, she will not settle in her moses basket at night but she will in the day, tried her in her own cot just to see and she didnt settle there

I understand shes been on my tummy for the last 9 months and this is all so new to her and she doesnr know her moses basket is for sleep

I just dont want to be making things difficult for us and her in the future, have tried swaddling, putting in a muslin that's been down my top, shell fall to sleep on you straight away but as soon as you put her down she awake

I'm in no way complaining as I love the extra cuddles and I happily stay up all night holding her but I know this won't be ideal one day

I'm very sleep deprived so appreciate this is probably a ramble post

So did anyone else little one settle in a moses basket in the day but not at night?

Sounds exactly like my DD who is now 10 weeks old and happily sleeps in her basket. Let her fall asleep on you and gently pop her in her basket, this worked for us. It took about 2 weeks but we got there. Try stuffing her mattress cover/blanket down your top for a little while too so she has you scent on her.

So whilst she didnt like it did she fall asleep on you youd put her in the basket and shed wake? So did u get her out get her back to sleep and put her back in? And persevered with it? Thanks lovely I'm going to try that xx

Does she cry when she wakes? Or just wakes up? It's so hard when you cant put them down. Like you say when is only 4 days old and still adjusting to life on the outside. Maybe just cuddle her to sleep and wait 10mins then try and put her down in her moses basket, if she wakes up pick her up again, then just keep trying at every nap. Hopefully she will get used to it soon xx

She stirs for a while and while shes stirring I leave her I only pick her up once she cries, a few people have said to only put her in the moses basket at night not in the day so she associates it with bed time, yeah think it will just take perseverance of keep putting her back lol I wouldn't mind so much because like I say I understand shes so young and is adjusting to the world and not being in my tummy it's just for me personally i donr want to co sleep worries me something bad will happen and at the minute it's either do that or get no sleep lol xx

@Aimzxo 9 times out of 10 she would wake up in the early weeks, but from probably 5/6 weeks she started to stir but then settle. Only time I've had trouble getting her down since is after her vaccinations. She now goes down in the day or night without much fuss! x

You cannot ask anything from such a young baby. Just take it day by day. Newborn days are very difficult. I actually slept in the day and stayed awake almost all night with my little boy. It will get better, you must ride it out.

Have things got any better? I'm with you on the co sleeping, the thought of it terrifies me. I wouldn't be able to sleep! X

You have to judge it.

Sometimes it's more important that they sleep than where/how they sleep!

If she sleeps well in a sling, then let her sleep there.

There's no point putting her down, picking her up, putting her down etc for what may seem like forever.

@Aimzxo your doing a wonderful job and you will find your own way with your daughter

My son is now 14 months at first it was all cuddles for sleep and we would have to hold him for a good 30 mins to get 30mins in his snuz pod slowly he slept in it better and better And he would be place sleepy but not asleep in it and go to sleep fine

With teething and illnesses after starting nursery we are back to cuddling asleep ... but he only need to be asleep 5 mins now and eventually I will get him back to going to sleep in his cot when he is better ... just go with the flow and work to what you and your little one need x

Yeah shes doing much better! We dont use the moses basket in the day only at night, we bought an ewan the sheep, I put rolled up small blankets round the edge to make it more cosy and I put one of my tops in there and past few nights shes been waling every 3 hours for a feed nappy change and a cuddle and then she goes back down, but I know this wont always happen every night! Thanks ladies i realise i was expecting alot from her i wasnt expecting a full routine or anything like that it was more because she was settling and it's so rammed down your throat not to co sleep etc just wanted to make make sure I was doing right by her! Dont know why I looked to people on the internet I dont know for that lol just nice to get multiple peoples experiemces! But your right I need to get to know her and work out what works for her which isnt going to be so obvious at 1 week old xx

I was coming on to suggest swaddling, as your baby may like the feeling of snugness and closeness...mine did! Also found he slept miles better and stopped startling awake when we got a sleepyhead. That helped transition him into sleeping in the bedside crib. DS is 10 months old now and wont be cuddled to sleep at all, he's Mr Independent these days! So enjoy the newborn sleepy snuggles while they last

My DD did not sleep and we ended up co sleeping out of exhaustion but I never fully slept because I was scared about suffocating her her first year I was like a walking zombie! So with DS we got a next to me crib and sleepyhead he is almost 4 months and has always slept in his own bed next to me waking for feeds (he is breastfed)! If he has a bad night I put the 'SHH' noise on my phone through youtube and that helps him sleep better 😊

Every baby is different though, my DD is 3.5 years and still not a great sleeper 🤷🏻‍♀️