Feel ill about telling my mum

[Cherryrainbow]

It sounds stupid given I'm 32 and in a 3 year relationship, live with my bf etc. I Feel sick with anxiety about telling my mum cos I think she doesn't like my bloke (but then she hates all men) and instead of being like r u ok etc. She's gunna launch into a tirade about how I'm selfish and she's done her time she won't have the baby for me etc and assume I'll ask her about childcare (we won't we have a plan). Don't get me wrong she's been an amazing nana to my 6 year old from another relationship. She's his best friend etc. But she always tells me "You don't want another child, you can't have another child, I've done my time in not looking after any more grand kids". Bracing myself but I can't concentrate at work today feel like I'm gunna have a panic attack or b sick.

You’re letting her have too much control over your thoughts. I think you need to set some boundaries with her the thought of telling your mother you are pregnant should not be triggering this level of anxiety.

You said it yourself you don’t need her to look after this child. So therefore you don’t need to listen to her negativity. Just walk away. i think you need to be firmer and more assertive with her as obviously knows she can get away with speaking to you like that.

I was absolutely petrified about telling my dad! I'm 37 and going through a messy divorce so my life is all over the place anyway then I unexpectedly fell pregnant with a guy I'd only been seeing for a few months.
This is my first pregnancy and I've not even got my own place at the minute so it's pretty much the worst timing imaginable.

I felt like a naughty teenager telling my dad and honestly thought he'd be so disappointed in me. Luckily though, his response completely blew me away and he has been so supportive since finding out.

Hopefully your mum will be the same and you'll be building this up to be so much worse than it is. It's one thing saying things about wanting no more kids but different when they're faced with another beautiful, innocent grandchild!

I say just rip the plaster off and tell her. Good luck x