When to tell?

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Just curious when everyone decided to tell people they were pregnant?
I am only 4 weeks and have told two friends but my DH seems to be annoyed I have even told one person. I feel upset about this because I feel it's quite a lonely time waiting until the 12 week scan x

We told both sets of parents (gave them congratulations cards which said you’re going to be grandparents inside) at 7 weeks as we were visiting and I was vomiting loads. If we had been able to hide it, we would have preferred to tell after the first scan. It is nice to be able to talk about it though! I’m going to tell work and a few close friends after the 12 week scan. And will announce on fb for everyone else after the 20 week scan if it is all okay. It’s completely a personal choice but good idea to be on the same level with your DP about it x

It’s an entirely personal choice but we discussed it first and decided to wait until after our 12 weeks scan before we told friends and family. I’m 16 weeks and still haven’t told other friends/people I see daily. I don’t expect I will either. They’ll find out soon enough 😂

I told my closest friends when I found out at about 4 weeks and my parents at about 8 weeks but waited until after 12 weeks had passed to tell people such as my granddad and then posted on facebook around the time that I started showing so that everyone knew and I didn't have to keep tabs on who I had or hadn't told (I work and go to uni so I have a lot of people in my life that are just acquaintances)

I think it depends how close you are with people. I'm also 4 weeks and told 2 friends (the ones I showed the test to for 'line eyes') so not really an announcement as such.
DP quite annoyed at me for telling anyone, I think he's worried something will go wrong which it might well do.
I've decided not to tell anyone else until we see a heartbeat- I have a condition which means I'll be scanned very regularly so will have had scans before you usually would. Then just family and close friends, then work etc at 12 weeks I think.

I told my parents straight away but it was christmas and I couldn't drink so was difficult to hide. I've ended up telling some people at work before 12 weeks as I've had terrible sickness and again, have found it very difficult to hide. I know what people say, wait for 12 weeks but personally I think that rubbish. You tell people when you want. Also if anything was to happen I'm sure youd want famkly/friends/close colleagues to know so they could support you.

I could've written this post myself op, I was just wondering other people's thoughts on this very topic!! So far I've told my parents (just in case anything happens, I'll need a shoulder to cry on) and a couple of my closest friends at work - I'm a teacher and often have to dip out of lesson for the loo / feeling sick and so need some support in my corner! Other than that, none of our friends or anyone else from my or DHs family know. I'm currently 6+6, we agreed that we'd wait until my first scan to tell people properly and then I will tell work... It just seems SO far away!!!

I told friends / family around Christmas when I was about 8/9 weeks as I had a scan at 6 weeks and they had visualized the heartbeat and I read the chances of miscarriage go way down after seeing the heartbeat. It was also nice as it was Christmas and some family I would see again in person for a while, just felt right. Didn’t tell everyone else e.g work and others until after 12 week scan

It's personal choice but we told both sets of parents, grandparents and my brother as soon as we found out which was 4 weeks. Friends and close extended family we told after our 12 week scan, and then others found out on social media 😂

Told imediate family at 8 weeks and other people after our 13 week scan. It was hard keeping it quiet that long but I'm glad we did as anything can happen in the first few weeks and I wanted to make sure there was actually a healthy baby in there!

Each time I've told a close friend and my parents very early on. Then it varies. I announced to the world with pregnancy 2 at 14 weeks and then pregnancy 3 ended in a TFMR at 22+4 so i was glad not to have shared with the world in a way.
Though i did after so it doesn't make much difference 😂

I’m 9 weeks +1 and told DH’s parents And my parents at 8 weeks after my early scan , told my siblings shortly after and one grandparent . Told one friend (well she’s my DH work colleague) early on as she is two weeks ahead of me so I’ve been sharing the journey with her . And work , I had to tell them due to needing time off . Congrats ! X

It's different for every person I think. I think a lot of people consider 12 weeks as the norm due to reduced risk of MC. I've never been in the situation but I do often think that if if you would tell your close friends and family you'd had a MC why would you not tell them you are pregnant? I can only presume, but I think I would rely on them for emotional support so I would want them to know.

If you would rather not share then it might be better to wait.

My rule is: before 12-16 weeks, I only tell people that I'd be comfortable subsequently having to lean on for support if I were to have a miscarriage.