Driving fast during pregnancy

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Hey everyone

This may sound like such a stupid question but is driving fast when pregnant dangerous for the baby

My boyfriend is such an irrational driver and loves going fast and it literally has my tummy doing flips (I hate it but he insists😩) I'm 16 weeks and am so worried

Is this a risk? And if it is does anyone know of any resources so I can show him and hopefully get him to stop

I need something that basically says acceleration or harsh braking etc is bad for the baby

But it’s not. How fast do you think a plane accelerates when it takes off? Or brakes when it lands? What IS bad for the baby is the crash that will inevitably happen when he’s twatting around.

That feeling in your stomach when he accelerates is your gut instinct telling you that you are not safe. Listen to your instincts. They are there for a reason, and may just save your life

He basically needs to grow up now he's driving around his baby and partner and wreck less driving needs to stop especially with kids (it should be a no no anyway but with kids it's just not a joke)

I'd be seriously considering if I'd ever let him drive once the baby was born if it was me you are NOT being unreasonable

OP honestly, this is ridiculous. You can't manufacture evidence to make him care about something that he already doesn't. You're his partner and it makes you uncomfortable/anxious when he drives the way he does. He knows this because you've told him. He continues to drive this way. Yes he's an idiot, but so are you for continuing to get in the car with him. So either stop doing it or stop complaining

Oh ffs. It doesn't matter how good a driver you are if you're speeding - if someone else makes an error you don't have enough time to slow down / brake / react safely.

He's a selfish cunt and if you have to give him some official guidelines to justify him not scaring the shit out of you in the car, especially when you're pregnant, I would be seriously concerned about his attitude to fatherhood.

Your baby will be in the car with him alone / with you / with other adults he shows off to despite being a fucking adult?! so you might want to think about that pretty carefully before little one arrives.

He would rather you were scared of your baby being hurt than stop showing off to his friends.

Seriously, does that honestly not make you think less of him as a person?

He ain’t going to be much of a father if he is in prison for killing some one with his reckless driving or dead.

Why not start telling him the sudden acceleration and braking is making you feel nauseated? He won't want you to be sick in the car. If your stomach is flipping, it's close enough, and goodness knows being pregnant can make anyone more sensitive to certain things.

Mmm boy racer. Lovely.

Hope he has space in the car for a baby seat. Not.

If he's not man enough to not drive like a dick because you ask him to, he's probably not mature enough to have kids.

Let's hope having an actual baby in the car changes him.

Try google for your medical damage questions cos let's face it, he's not going to believe women on MN.

Sudden acceleration won’t harm your baby but if it’s putting you under stress then that could . But just because he’s a good driver doesn’t mean he won’t crash . My friend lost her three brothers when they were in a car with their mate who was going 60 in a 60, so not speeding but crashed into another car . Complete accident and they were good drivers but still crashed and all of them died apart from the driver . One of my colleagues cousins was killed in a car accident the other day and she was 30 weeks pregnant . Husband survived but she and her baby died at the scene . Again just setting off too quickly and couldn’t break in time when a car in front of them suddenly stopped .
It’s other people you need to be careful of and if he’s driving confidently but quickly , it only takes one little mistake to destroy lives .
You shouldn’t need proof to make him take you seriously he should just listen to you , he’s your partner and father of your baby. My husband isn’t even letting me lift heavy things and I’m only 9 weeks pregnant ! If you’re in a serious relationship then he needs to take you seriously .

Itsemily I'm so sorry for the loss of your colleague that's just heartbreaking x

You've said- I've never said he's speeding at ridiculous amounts or he's weaving out of cars etc. At traffics lights etc he's just so fast off the line my tummy's doing flips. He gets 0-60 so fast my stomachs flipping. It's not as though he's breaking speed limits etc he just has a fast car and uses that acceleration

I just wanted to know if the actual acceleration and the feeling of my stomach flipping is endangering the baby at all

BUT WHY WOULD SOMEONE WHO LOVES YOU WANT TO MAKE THEIR PREGNANT PARTNERS STOMACH FLIP

Going 0-60 really fast is idiotic it's irrelevant whether he's not breaking a speed limit it's still unsafe driving

Sudden acceleration will not harm your baby.

A head on collision at speed could kill you both.

Doesn’t matter how safe he thinks he is - he can’t predict a pedestrian pulling out, another car swerving in front of him, a slippery patch of oil on the road etc.

Please advocate for your unborn child and refuse to get in the car with him unless he will drive safely and sensibly.

Sorry OP, but I doubt your going to find an article on how 'harsh breaking' can effect a pregnant women, it's not that you should be considering, it's yours and your child's safety.
I lost 2 of my best friends at aged 16 in a car crash due to reckless driving, and they were only passengers, I had to go to two of my best friends funerals at aged 16, believe me you don't expect it to happen to anyone you know.
When will people realise CARS ARE NOT TOYS.
I don't mean to sound mean op, but there are families out there who would give everything to have there loved ones back who they lost because of this.
Don't be silly enough to take advantage of this life you have, because really it could be gone in a flash when it comes to driving lethal way.
Please please don't allow him to keep doing this.

where does he get all that cheap petrol that he is wasting with all this unnecessary acceleration and braking?

it's not dangerous until he crashes. But rest assured, every time you get out of the car with him people are thinking 'why does she sleep with such an idiot?'

how's the insurance and financial situation if he does do the 'four blokes into a car vs tree' thing? Sorry to be brutal but you need to think of this.

If he doesn't give a shit about how it makes you feel then that's that, really. He doesn't care because he cares more about impressing his friends than you. Good luck OP, you're going to need it.

Could you say even though he is a good driver

• Going too fast makes you scared and your blood pressure and stress level going up is really bad for the baby and dangerous.
• If he had to brake suddenly because something came in his while he might not crash the jolt on you and the seatbelt on your belly could be really dangerous.
• That you feel he is being unfair not taking your feelings into consideration and it is really upsetting you.

Sorry but he sounds like a danger on the roads. He shouldn’t be driving - anyone who thinks their safe to drive like an idiot because their a good driver shouldn’t be allowed on the roads.

Harsh breaking is 100% a risk especially considering you're only 16 weeks so unlikely to be able to wear your seatbelt completely under where a growing bump would be. It would be almost like having a minor crash every time after which you're advised to see a Dr/Midwife.

Accelerating and hard braking does not harm the baby. If your belt is across your bump and there is an emergency stop it may hurt you. A car accident however could be fatal for you and baby

"He won't crash because he's a good driver"

I wonder how many other people have thought that that are now dead??

Your DP needs to grow the hell up and stop putting you and his baby at risk!

You need a grow up and tell him it's not now nor will it ever be acceptable!

He sounds like a right nob. You're pregnant...you've told him how the etractic driving makes you feel.....he still does it = nob.

Has he managed to grow up and take your thoughts, feelings and safety on board yet OP? I hope so.

@GroggyLegs I totally agree!

This isn’t about proving his driving could cause harm it’s about how you feel.

I feel my husband drives a bit too fast sometimes and I ask him to slow down emphasising that I Feel unsafe. I doesn’t matter that he’s still within the speed limit or other cars are going faster. If you feel unsafe that should be enough!

I also prefer to drive so I’m in control and I don’t feel sick.