First pregnancy, anxiety tips?

[newlymarried2019]

My head is currently full of stories of ladies who sadly have lost their babies. It's hugely due to the fact that two of my friends have suffered 2+ MC's. (although, 4 other friends have all been successful in multiple babies, for some reason I'm choosing to focus on the negative)

Im a worrier. I have some symptoms that come and go but don't 'feel pregnant' if that makes sense... Im currently only 6+5 and am aware that it's very early days. My DH doesn't really like to talk about what's coming until I'm 12 weeks gone, as hes in the mindset that he doesn't want to get his (or my) hopes up. This doesn't ease my worries though, it just makes me doubt this is actually going to happen even more.

Im not sure what I'm here for other than to ask, is this normal? Have you felt similar? Any tips on how to ease my worries at all?

I definitely think pregnancy can cause so much worry so don't worry yourself more thinking you shouldn't feel like that!
It will be harder too if you are having to keep things to yourself and not talk as much with your DH so perhaps try and explain how you're feeling to him anxiety wise rather than pregnancy wise as that might help. Definitely talking can help ease worries though.

It's normal for symptoms to not be there all the time so please try and rest assured and keep in mind that you'll always see or hear about the negative things far more usually than you will positive but each pregnancy is individual and doesn't mean it will happen to you. Plus, as scary as a thought it may be, if things do happen, it's not the fault of the mum or anything you can control so it's just one of those things you have to ride out and go with - hard I know! Things do become easier once you start having more scans/appointments as you feel more is happening but wishing you a healthy pregnancy

I'm also in very early pregnancy, and I'm just trying to think positively. I know that sounds too obvious, but people keep telling me to 'not get my hopes up' and 'not get too excited' and tbh that just doesn't help me, it just makes me feel anxious. I'm choosing to go down the path of assuming everything will be fine, getting excited, thinking about holding my baby in 8 months etc. If something happens then it happens, and I'll deal with it if it comes to that, but I stand a much better chance of it all going well if I feel positive, calm and relaxed. Hope you feel better soon.

In my early pregnancy my symptoms came and went. I remember sitting on the sofa and saying to DH 'sometimes I forget im pregnant'.

BIggest piece of advice - STAY AWAY FROM GOOGLE!

I wish I’d done a post like this when I first found out because my anxiety has been crazy too! I found out at 3 weeks so very early and I’m now 9 weeks +1 and had an early scan to reassure me .
My biggest advise (although maybe too late!) is stay off google because that’s where people go for support if they’ve had a MC or MMC , stillbirths etc as it’s a place for advise whereas it’s not as common to go to google with good news . If that makes sense . Someone on here told me remember the odds are in your favour and enjoy the days where you feel better than others as the harder days will come and it’s normal for symptoms to come and go . My boobs stopped hurting around 6 weeks and they still don’t hurt so don’t worry if you’re faced with that. Cramps are normal as long as you’re not doubled over in pain and bleeding lots (but even then things can still be ok!). Discharge is normal, feeling tired one day and fine another is also normal . Bloating is normal and you may get bad gas. I hope some of that helps xx