So stupid, why do I feel like this:(

[pizza97]

Afternoon!
Please nobody judge if your gonna put a really horrid reply please don’t, because I am completely aware this is ridiculous and really wish I didn’t feel this way as it’s soooo stupid.
So I’m 19 weeks pregnant little girl on the way but I can’t help but have waves of just sadness where I want to burst into tears!
I’m the youngest of my family and have such a such a good strong relationship with both my parents, they are both literally my best friends, and I’m so worried that maybe it won’t be this way when I have a baby, like they won’t love me as much anymore because they’ll be so in love with the baby like I said i know it’s completely ridiculous! They still fuss over me and are always so happy to see me when I go round, I feel in future they will just be happy to see baby. my mum and I always have close conversations when I go round without OH and me and my dad are the same, and feeling maybe it won’t be the same, and I don’t know why I’m so overly worried about this?
Also I’m worried about little things like sleepless nights, how me and my OH can’t just be spontaneous as such anymore, there’s times where I’m happy and excited but then I keep getting waves of these stupid feelings of sadness and I have no idea why!! :( feeling really fed up with this.

I'm not as far along as you, but I think these are very natural feelings to be having. Becoming a parent is a massive deal, and so daunting. Do you have a friend who has been through it who you could chat to.

Take care

Congratulations on your pregnancy :)
Do you have a good relationship with your midwife? It sounds like you may need to be aware of antenatal depression and watch out for it.
I was the centre of my parents' world. Now I have two children, there are three of us there :)
Glad you have wonderful supportive parents

I agree with PP, this sounds like antenatal depression. Arrange a chat with your midwife and let her know how you're feeling. Or just copy and paste your post if you find it hard to put into words.

My actual midwife I haven't met yet, because my first midwife appointment was straight after Christmas, there was someone like filling in for her, but my next app is 2nd March, I feel so ridiculous for feeling this way, my parents really are amazing people, and they are so so supportive and I share such a close bond with them I don't know why I'm being so stupid to have a worry like they won't have as much love for me anymore it's beyond silly! I'm so glad you guys have been so nice about it though and not judged me! Means so much!

It's not ridiculous... Well it is a little bit but we're all allowed to be a little bit ridiculous when pregnant. If it wasn't this is would be something else

Are you aware of the information service for parents

I think you should talk to your midwife so they're aware. You're right to feel
Like this in some ways. When they're tiny you do stop being yourself and becoming x's mum and not everyone can cope with this- I certainly struggled with losing my sense of self. Try to put the support in place now

Agree with PPs. Try to think of it as a deep, shared bonding experience. I wasn’t overly close with my parents pre children but speak to them every day now, it is amazing to have other people love my kids like I do and has brought me so much closer with them. I think when baby is here and is your world, you won’t give your current feelings a thought.
But best to speak to a professional if you need to.