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I'm just over 14 weeks and I had a brief reprieve in week 12, but since then I have had terrible sickness (not actually vomited) and a pounding headache. Essentially, I feel like I have a hangover every day when I wake up. I have had to take a couple of days off work as I work in an office and I am finding the waves of nausea are really overwhelming. My boss is understanding.

Everything I read tells me this is relatively normal. I was in the GP last week and she checked me over, blood pressure, checked for swelling etc but my mum has just told me it sounds extremely abnormal and she didn't feel ill or take any time off work during her pregnancy. This really upset me, have to admit I had a bit of a cry as I'm already worried about everything I'm feeling (first baby). I already feel guilty that I'm not coping or blooming yet as everything I read tells me I should be feeling much better by now. Did anyone else feel this way at 14 weeks? Xx

Not sure if this is helpful or unhelpful but I had similar until at least 19 weeks that I remember, I don't think it's abnormal, it is grim though!

Completely normal! Don’t let anyone engage in competitive pregnancy Symptom spotting, especially when it doesn’t help you!

I’m 13+5 and have also been feeling like I’m rubbish at pregnancy because I’ve really struggled with the nausea, vomiting and fatigue. Headaches have also come to join the party this week too.

Turns out I’m not having a normal pregnancy and I have hyperemesis. I actually found it reassuring that I’m not just being a wimp!

The doctors and midwives have point out that all pregnancies are different - sometimes you can sail through and be all glowy and wonderful, sometimes you can just feel a bit run down and gross and sometimes you’re completely floored by it. It’s no reflection on you as a mother - different symptoms for different folks. Just look after yourself and everyone else can mind their own business!

Nonsense. My mum had very few pregnancy symptoms but bled heavily. I didn't have much bleeding but ended up in a wheelchair. It's not a competition. Your mother sounds hugely unhelpful. Making someone feel guilty for feeling sick is hardly helpful.

I had much worse, hyperemesis, hospitalised with all 3 dc at least 5 times each pregnancy. If your abnormal I dread to think what I was
It’s horrible but you’ll get there!

I had awful nausea until 20 weeks (sorry OP) both times. Two 'normal' healthy pregnancies. I had to take anti-sickness tablets with the second to get me through work/looking after DS. When it does finally disappear you'll feel amazing!

Thanks for the comments! She's normally so helpful, I'm just ignoring her. Sorry to hear about some of the awful symptoms you've all had xx

Mums & pregnancy symptoms 😫 mine is very lovely but if I hear one more time she was doing keep fit classes up to the day I was born, I may scream. Lucky you mum, you had 6 weeks of feeling sick between 5pm-10pm & no other complications! I meanwhile have had HG in both pregnancies, this one its lasted to 32 weeks so far. I’m also really anaemic despite the highest whack of iron tablets. Sorry I don’t fancy an aerobic class with ongoing sickness & next to no iron!

You are not your mum. Nor is this pregnancy is anyway related to her pregnancy with you!

Unfortunately, pregnancy sickness does go on for longer than 12 weeks for a lot of people. It’s awful but normal. Most people find its gone by 20 weeks at the latest! I’m one of the unlucky ones where it continues for the full 40 weeks 😫 your GP doesn’t sound too sympathetic but there are safe anti sickness meds out there if you are struggling. I’ve been on quite a concoction! But please be assured that it is ‘normal’. Just flipping awful

Check out: Pregnancy Sickness Support - a fabulous & supportive charity!

My first pregnancy I flew through, didn't have a day off felt great. Currently 24 weeks and off work for SPD- and low moods - crying at everything.
No pregnancy is the same. Just like no labour is.
This won't be the last unhelpful comment you hear, you just need to learn to ignore them.
It will get worse and more annoying as you go through it's just the way people are.
Certain generations will think a baby been quiet towards the end is normal, your midwife will tell you this isn't normal and changes in patterns need to be checked immediately. People will tell you birth stories you don't want to hear, you will find the mums whose babies are perfect and make you feel awful. Again learn to ignore them now so him don't beat yourself up about anything.
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I was still throwing up the day before I gave birth OP (sorry!) it did get easier to deal with as time went on and eased off a bit after week 20 or so, so I was only throwing up every few days and the nausea was confined to the morning.

If it’s interfering with work, get to the doctors and ask about the options for antiemetics. I got prescribed some at 16 weeks although I didn’t end up taking them as they made me super drowsy. The midwife told me I should have asked for them earlier instead of suffering without.

I felt this way up until I gave birth to my 1st.

My 2nd up until 9 weeks.

I'm now pregnant with my 3rd, I can't shop because I get close to passing out. I can barely drive because of the pain of spd and I'm vomitting every day still. I'm just over 32 weeks pregnant and this has been from around 7 weeks.

Every one in pregnancy is different and every pregnancy you have is different.
Hopefully it passes for you soon as I know how hard it can be!!!

Tbh I find the least sympathetic people are the women who had problem free pregnancies themselves and can't seem to grasp that it's not that way for everyone. (#pregnantnotill can fuck off)

Yes. In both my pregnancies I have felt weeks 13 - 14 to be the toughest and have needed time of work to get through it.
As you're not being sick I assume you're not dehydrated but avoid it all you can. Take sips of water and high sugar drinks to keep your blood sugar up. Rest as much as possible and remind yourself that you will feel normal again soon. Xx

Very normal. I was complaining on her last week of feeling permanently hungover. It was awful. I’ve actually just had 3 days reprieve and I’m 16 weeks. It’s back today but hoping I may just dip in and out of feeling so awful.
Hopefully you’ll start feeling better too soon :)

Nope! From weeks 11ish - 16 I had a couple of days off work a week. It was awful.

I’ve had this same hungover type feeling everyday for weeks!

People have totally different pregnancies, I was literally just saying to my boyfriend how I haven’t missed alcohol in the slightest because I’ve felt permanently hungover for the last 2 months without it 😂

I can totally relate to feelings of not coping blooming. Currently 15weeks and still so rough. My sister breezed through her pregnancies (even a twin one) and I just feel like a big moaning mess.

Mums can be challenging and I don’t like to be told “you’re pregnant not ill” when you do in fact feel very sick... I think they have rose tinted glasses from years passed of their own experiences and of course only want the best for us.

I felt unwell till 16 weeks and then now at 20 weeks still have some off moments. Just try take it day by day x

I’m 13 weeks and I’ve been off work for a month now With bad sickness! Only you know if you’re up to it or not, listen to you’re body. My mum says similar things like “go to work you may feel better” but I highly doubt puking 8 time’s in front of my clients would be helpful on top of the crippling nausea. Everyone’s pregnancy is different, you do what you think is best. Fingers crossed the sickness eases soon!

I'm 14+6 and had to take a couple of days off over the past couple of weeks for recovering from morning sickness.
I thought it was starting to get better last week but now it seems to be getting worse again - last night's/this morning's was especially violent.
I do feel I'm being judged by some who had easier pregnancies and didn't need to take any time off work but there is no way I would have made the drive in on the days I've taken off.