My sister seems resentful towards my husband and I for having a baby

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So this is my first time posting and just feel like I need some advice/ to vent..

My husband and I are expecting a precious baby girl in the next 2 weeks.

So basically we told my family etc back in August last year once we had the scans and confirmation everything was ok.

Everyone was really happy apart from one of my sisters. She’s older than me by 2 and a bit years so not even that much.

She’s been really resentful towards the baby and me and told our Mum not to say anything about the baby around her because she’s not interested and that I don’t deserve my daughter which is really upsetting as she will be mine and my husbands rainbow baby.

One of my other sisters has 5 children and my sister who is resentful seems to love them like they’re her own but just seems to hate my baby.

I’ve tried to include her in things and have even told her that I want her to be involved in my daughters life just as much as everyone else to be but it seems like she wants none of it and has told me multiple times that I’m selfish for having a baby and getting married before her because she doesn’t have that.. and now she’s been talking about getting a sperm donor so she can have her own baby.

I’d really like to try and mend the relationship with her but I really don’t know how to. Has anyone else had to deal with this and what did you do to fix it?

Thanks in advance

She is obviously jealous and selfish, leave her out of it, don't waste too much time and energy on her. If she wants to come round to the idea and be a decent person, not to mention auntie to your baby girl, she will. It's not your responsibility to make her feel comfortable with not having what you have. I'm not saying cut her out entirely, just don't give her the time and attention she's obviously craving because it's not worth the hassle. If she never grows up and comes round to it then it's her loss!

How old is she OP? If she’s at an age where childlessness is looking like a real possibility for her, then I think you need to try and be sensitive (although of course she shouldn’t have said you don’t deserve this baby). She may be feeling very sad about it.

She is only 27

I’m selfish for having a baby and getting married before her because she doesn’t have that

“I’m sorry you feel that way.”

This isn’t on you at all. It’s her. Same response every time. Don’t get pulled into an argument or fight. If she is going to be toxic around your baby, remove yourself and baby from the situation.

Regardless of whether or not she is experiencing her own difficulties regarding fertility/life ‘goals,’ to say you don’t deserve your baby is incredibly spiteful. Especially after you have suffered a loss.

Congratulations on your 🌈 baby

Thank you everyone, I will step back and just let her do her own thing in her own time 💜