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11 week scan no heartbeat

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Nics23 · 24/01/2020 01:35

I had a private scan tonight at 11 weeks and there was no heartbeat and the baby stopped growing at 8+3.

I’m so numb. I’ve not lost any pregnancy symptoms and can’t believe I’ve been carrying around a baby without a heartbeat for over two weeks. I still vomited brushing my teeth tonight which was one of my first pregnancy signs.

I’ve to go to the EPU in the morning. I’m so upset.

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Bluebuddha10 · 24/01/2020 02:10

I'm so sorry for you, dont know what to say but sending lots of love. It must be very hard xxxxx

Jojo19834 · 24/01/2020 02:16

Take care and time to process, can’t imagine how you are feeling atm. Some babies are just not meant for this world and this is nature intervening. Doesn’t make any easier though I appreciate

CloudyVanilla · 24/01/2020 02:32

I'm ever so sorry Flowers

Words can't change what has transpired for you but I hope you have good support around you, and hope you go on to have happy healthy baby that's what you wish Flowers

CloudyVanilla · 24/01/2020 02:32

If that's what you wish*

maria2bela · 24/01/2020 05:47

So sorry for your loss 💔. Be kind to yourself, take time to heal, just remember it is what was meant to be and nothing you could have done could have prevented it x

FluffyPJs · 24/01/2020 06:09

I am so sorry to hear this, it's the worst thing to have to deal with and I know how bewildered and lost you must be feeling. This also happened to me. I was 14 weeks and had my first scan, but the baby had stopped growing at 9 weeks and there was no heartbeat. I had never heard of this and was devastated. It took time but I did eventually come to terms with it. We were told the baby had been a girl, and we named her, which I think helped a bit. I did become pregnant again the following year, I found out just after her due date had passed, and I had a successful pregnancy that time (he's now almost 14). I hope you have lots of people around you who can support you, and I found this website a massive help, especially in the middle of the night when I couldn't sleep.

Chanel05 · 24/01/2020 06:34

I'm so sorry for your loss. I have been there having had a missed miscarriage myself last year and it is horrific. They will be likely to bombard you with information tomorrow but don't feel like you need to make a form decision suddenly, I took 10 days to consider my opinions.

Goldenmother · 24/01/2020 06:47

So sorry to hear that thinking of you and hope you have a great support system x

sandgrown · 24/01/2020 07:04

Thinking of you. X

Delbelleber · 24/01/2020 08:07

Flowers sorry for your loss

didslysquiddlydoo · 24/01/2020 09:53

So sorry for your sad news. I also had a MMC last year and remember how devastated I felt. Be kind to yourself and take the time you need xxx

tweedler · 24/01/2020 10:02

Sending big hugs. I'm so sorry. X

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Nics23 · 24/01/2020 11:31

Thank you all. I’m booked in for surgery on Monday, so I’m just going to hide for the weekend.

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Catlover10 · 24/01/2020 11:37

I’m so sorry, apparently with some MMC’s the symptoms can still stay for a while. Sending lots of hugs look after yourself xxFlowers

Zoflorabore · 24/01/2020 11:44

So sorry op, this is awful. The same happened to me 10 years ago, 11 weeks and the baby had died at 5/6 weeks and I had no clue. I opted to wait for a week but nothing happened so I had the surgery.

I was pregnant again around 6 weeks later and my dd is 9 next month. They say you’re super fertile afterwards but I have no clue why.

Please look after yourself this weekend, lots of love xx

shutupsteph · 24/01/2020 11:44

I'm so so sorry OP 💓 sending so much love x

namechangenumber2 · 24/01/2020 11:50

I'm so sorry OP

I lost two babies to MMC in 2011/12. Like you I went to my scan, still with all the symptoms, to be told they'd stopped growing at 10 weeks. Both a day a part which I've always found weird.

The first I had an OP, the second I chose to have the pessary. I preferred the OP if I'm honest.

Sending you a gentle hug to get you through the weekend and I hope Monday goes ok

Be kind to yourself xx

Urkiddingright · 24/01/2020 12:40

I’m so sorry OP Flowers. I had two missed miscarriages in 2017 and it was the toughest, loneliest time of my life. All miscarriages are tough but the fact your body still makes you believe you’re pregnant is cruel beyond belief. I had a ‘normal’ miscarriage as well and found it a lot easier to process than the missed miscarriages.

Be kind to yourself and take as much time as you need to heal.

toomanyleggings · 24/01/2020 13:02

Happened to me at the beginning of the month. It was awful. I couldn't bear the waiting at home so I had the erpc. Glad I did because I was still throwing up as they took me down for surgery and I am still testing positive three weeks after the operation. I don't think I'd have passed it naturally for a long time. Sorry you're going through this @Nics23 Thanks

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Nics23 · 24/01/2020 17:00

I’m so sorry for you all who have had this happen too Flowers it’s so difficult to comprehend when your body is still convinced it’s pregnant. Thank you all for the kind words, it’s so helpful knowing you’re not alone

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Rjandy2014 · 24/01/2020 17:37

So so sorry. I had a very similar situation in 2013. So i understand how you are feeling and nothing anyone says right now will make you feel better. Unfortunately time is the only healer. Thinking of you x

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