Husband doesn't want baby

[Girlmumma88]

So a couple of weeks ago we found out I was pregnant. One silly unprotected night and took the morning after pill the next day which obv didn't work.
We already have 3 small children so my husband is adamant we can't keep it.
I have a consultation booked at BPAS tomorrow but I'm not sure I can go through a termination. Will I resent him if I go through with it? Will we break up if I keep it and then it's affecting our other children as they won't see their dad every day.
I really don't know what to do 😔

For me the priority would be your excisting children. How will another baby affect family finances etc?

You need some counselling will BPAS give it?

You sound like you want this baby? I hope you can get some counselling and support x

As PP said your priority should be thinking about how your other children will be affected. If you keep the baby you need to assume you'll have to do it alone if DH is dead against having another, can you financially and emotionally support your children and a new baby?

At the end of the day you should never feel like you have to terminate, or not, for somebody else. Personally if DP had made me have a termination I know that our relationship would never be the same and we'd split up, luckily he'd never put me in that position.

It sounds like you are considering keeping the baby and breaking up with your husband. Is this what you want?

Is it practical for you to have another child? Can you afford it? You'll need a bigger car, bigger house (potentially), nursery fees, time off work etc. I have two primary school aged DDs, they are not exactly cheap and I don't think we have got the the expensive years yet.

I was so adamant I didn't want any more children but it's different when you actually find out you're pregnant. Me and husband had a difficult year last year (I found him on a dating website) and so I can see where he's coming from. We could financially afford it but things are just getting easier with the babies now so I do feel bad on them having another. Ahh I just wish I hadn't got myself into this situation. Yes I think bpas offer counselling so I'll see what they say tomorrow.

You didn’t get yourself into this situation, you both did!
Would you regret it if you terminated this pregnancy?

My Mum always said love is elastic it stretches, your other other children won’t be adversely affected, kids adapt. So don’t use them as an excuse!

Is your life and health at risk from being pregnant?
It sounds as if you could cope financially just need to tighten. Your belts.
I think you need to stop playing the blame game and using what you think other people are feeling to decide whether or not you end this pregnancy and do some serious soul searching

Whatever you decide maybe it’s time for your husband to get the snip and share the responsibility