Pregnant after MMC- Terrified

[NorfolkMumma87]

Hi I’m hoping you all may be able to help me, put me at ease, I don’t really know what it is I want from you all to be honest!?

I have a DD who will be 5 in June. Sept 19 OH and I had a MMC and I didn’t cope very well at all, probably doesn’t help that I work in maternity.

But now I find myself pregnant to which I’m excited but more terrified than anything else so much so that I can’t focus, or sleep... how do I cope with this?! I had absolutely zero sign that I had miscarried last time and so it’s unnerving to say the least as there are no “signs” for me to look out for if I’m worried as such. I’m finding it really hard to even consider thinking forward when I’m struggling with each day!

Thanks in advance and I’m sorry for the essay x

Hello dear, first up, thanks your lucky stars you are pregnant. That is a very big blessing. A lot of other women are not as lucky. A baby is always a blessing. But I totally understand that after a miscarriage, fear would be there. Maybe monitor the baby as much as you can and ask advice from the OB. Was there any fertility issue involved in the MMC?

@Maeve88Troy I know, it’s such a blessing, but doesn’t shake the fear unfortunately. It’s irrational I know!
No known reason for the MMC either. I believe they’re going to start taking my bloods from this week to check HCG levels and if any concerns scan me, I’m just so scared of it all happening again

Totally understand the fear of where you are coming from. I had a mmc in May (same as you 0 signs that anything had changed, had seen a heartbeat already) and went for a routine scan and the rug was swept from underneath me. I was totally devastated and had to have therapy. I am 5+6 again now and just trying to relax as best as I can. Remember, you are far more likely to have a successful pregnancy than an unsuccessful one. I had a nightmare about having a mmc at a scan the other night and I woke up and had to do deep breathing to calm myself. I'm totally terrified too but we just have to try and believe that this is our time.

I’m sorry for your loss
I had a mmc at 12 weeks and then got pg 1 week after my d&c, without my period returning
It was psychologically very hard and I was pretty terrified but she’s now 15 and completely awesome !!
Best of luck, you know you can carry a baby so there’s no reason to worry (easy to say I know)

Had three mc before this pregnancy.

The Fear never really goes away and I’m now 31 weeks. I find scans particularly tough.

Thank you all for your replies, I’m so sorry that you’ve been through the same or similar.

It’s nice to know I’m not going mad and that you all have felt/feel the same. I just need to take it day by day and get through these first 12 weeks I think!
Good to know that there’s so much support here too! So Thank you all :)

Just stumbled across your post and I’m in the exact same boat! Had a MMC in November and have fallen pregnant again this month on our first cycle of trying again! I feel incredibly lucky to have fallen so quickly but I’m an anxious mess. I’m worrying myself sick all day every day and am only just 4 weeks PG so have got a long wait until 12 weeks! I’ve booked in for a private scan for when I should be just over 7weeks and will probably book another one for around 10weeks! Not sure if this isn’t something you are able to do? ❤️

Sorry for your losses. I had a MMC that came to light at my 12 week scan in January last year, followed by a MC in June. I'm currently 18 weeks and quite up and down. Had 2 early reassurance scans, followed by 12 week, followed by one at 16 weeks after the midwife couldn't find the heartbeat at my appointment (which is quite common apparently - wish I'd known that!). All fine so far, fingers crossed. Started feeling movements a week ago, which was brilliant for daily reassurance, but had a panic as yesterday I didn't feel anything. Went to the midwife today and she found the heartbeat straight away - phew!

I just wanted to say, it does get easier. I am getting more positive, as every day takes you closer, though I do have the occasional wobble. Wish all of you ladies all the best - I know how hard it is.

Oh and don't be afraid to contact your midwife if you do need reassurance.

@NorfolkMumma87rfolk it's been a while I just want to check if you're all good. I hope everything is fine and that you have gotten over your fear?