Don't want to go to 8 week scan

[angelmum6]

I'm pregnant after lots of losses.

On new medication, things were going well. Last week had a check up, baby's HB slow at 100.

I'm due back on Tuesday to follow up but don't want to go. I'm sure I have PTSD of some kind. I've had no bleeding or pain but feel if I hear "there's no heartbeat" one more time I'll have a nervous breakdown.

One minute I'm crying, next minute I'm positive it'll be okay. I can't sleep, steroids have seen me put a stone on in a month, I'm covered in huge black bruises from clexane, progesterone is making my insides sore.

I hate this, I hate it all. I feel like if this one isn't okay I never want to be pregnant ever again.

I don't want to go on Tuesday, wish I could sleep through it all and wake up full term with a healthy baby.

I can't lift anything, I'm signed off work and losing more and more money. My DH is working 70 hour weeks and picking up all the housework apart from light stuff (cooking, dusting, putting clothes away) and although he doesn't complain and is very loving and kind, I feel so guilty.

I've been on anti depressants since I was 14 but feel worse than ever.

Can I just not go to the scan and let nature take its course? I don't smoke and rarely drink, haven't touched a drop since being pregnant so it's not like my lifestyle has changed much.

I feel this will be frowned upon if I cancel or am I within my rights? I'm too scared to go.

You are always, always allowed to choose for yourself whether you want to have any kind of test or treatment you're offered. If you feel you'd be more comfortable not having the scan, then that's absolutely a choice you get to make. Best wishes to you.

Hi, so sorry you are going through this. I can understand to an extent. We had a scan at 7 weeks where we were told it had a slow HB and had to go back the following week. I didn’t want to go either. Loss is so difficult to deal with and we try to protect ourselves as best we can. I did go and it wasn’t good news, for me I think needed to know either way but we are all different. What was right for me might not be for you. Go with what is right for you.

Wishing you all the best.

Thank you both so much @Persipan @OlivejuiceU2 I'll see how I feel Tuesday morning xx

Bless you. I can understand why you are worried. It would break you at any stage I'm guessing. It's horrendous to have it taken away from you. It's worth having the scan done though. Yes it could be bad news but it could also be positive. X

Absolutely your choice, but if the news was bad I’d prefer to know it asap. However best wishes to you and hope it’s a good result.

Totally understand where you're coming from. You don't have to go. You could wait and see whether you start bleeding or not. If you don't you could have another scan at 10 weeks and see what's what then? Or even wait until 12 weeks. If the pregnancy doesn't progress you will start to bleed - usually between 2 and 6 weeks after the pregnancy stops progressing. I declined early scans in the last 2 pregnancies I lost. One I mc at 7.5 weeks and the next at 8.5 weeks.

Didn't want to read and run...I'd say it's completely down to you, maybe take the burden away of making a decision right now and wait and see how you feel on the day?

For me personally, I think ah omg bad news at any stage is going to be hard and I think I'd want to know sooner than earlier. Everyone's different, go with what you feel is right x

Sooner than later*

You don't have to go to the scan if you don't want to. I missed loads of early scans as I found the internal scans too stressful and invasive. If you can handle it then just let nature take its course for a bit longer, it's totally up to you.

I think I wouldn't want to go, either. Scan wouldn't change the outcome. Personal choice, though.