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Opinions on announcing pregnancy on Facebook

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erised · 18/01/2020 20:15

Heard a lot of mixed things but mostly that it's insensitive to post that you're expecting a baby on Facebook. Personally I would like to share that I'm pregnant with my friends and family that I don't often see or talk to but haven't due to the negativity around it.

And I'm not talking about constantly talking about it, just a post to let people know and to share your joy and happiness.

What's your opinion on it?

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MostlyChocolate · 18/01/2020 20:17

Loads of people I know have done this and should I be in the position to do so in the future I will. X

MostlyChocolate · 18/01/2020 20:18

Your pregnancy your choice. But don't judge others it's not your place.

misspiggy19 · 18/01/2020 20:19

Don’t see a problem with it

FirstTimeDS · 18/01/2020 20:21

I did, why the heck not. It's nice to celebrate :)

DesLynamsMoustache · 18/01/2020 20:22

We did it. It was the only thing I posted about my pregnancy, but DH has a huge extended family spread all over and it was the easiest and quickest way to let everyone know at once.

strawberry2017 · 18/01/2020 20:22

I told the people I wanted to myself and then stuck it on Facebook so everyone else knew that I wasn't as bothered about.
My choice. If people judge I don't care!

2020BetterBeBetter · 18/01/2020 20:22

It’s up to you but don’t take offence of be surprised if some people then delete you or stop following your posts.

InsertFunnyUsername · 18/01/2020 20:23

It's your facebook, post what you like.

Fantababy · 18/01/2020 20:25

I didn't do it, just in case anything went wrong and a lot of people who knew I was pregnant weren't people I would tell that I wasn't any more.

Don't remotely judge those who do though.

seven201 · 18/01/2020 21:05

I admit it hurts when I see pregnancy announcements on facebook, but then I'm struggling with secondary infertility. It's your news though and if you want to share it on Facebook or wherever then it's your right.

ParkheadParadise · 18/01/2020 21:10

I would tell my close family and friends in person.
Then post on facebook.

CantKeepSecrets · 18/01/2020 21:13

I did share it wish my first quite late on, I wasn't going to at all but after speaking to a friend she said it might be a little bit weird (I've moved quite a while away from home) when I go back up to visit and bump into old friends who had no idea, I agreed.

I have people on Facebook I message back and forth maybe once a week/month and it probably wouldn't happen to naturally come up in conversation so I think a nice blanket post is appropriate.

Bellabelloo · 18/01/2020 21:19

There's a difference between announcing it and banging on about how wonderful being pregnant or being a mother is which could upset some people with fertility issues. If you want to share, go got it!!!

MousematsRule · 18/01/2020 21:42

I did with my first eight years ago and didn't really think anything of it. Now though, two of our really close friends and a close relative are experiencing fertility problems, including my best friend since primary school. We've told them privately but having seen first hand how hard things like that are for them, even though they'd never say don't post it, we don't want to be the ones that might cause them any upset, so we've decided against posting any big announcement.

It's also made me think I don't really know who else on my friends list is going through the same thing.

I think it just depends whether you're close to anyone who's having a hard time and if you are, yeah it could be a bit insensitive

MrsSokhi · 18/01/2020 21:46

If you want to post it online then do it, regardless of what people are going through they should be happy for you, that's like not saying your happy when someone is sad, you can't control what others are going through and you help upsetting people with your happy news but again they should be happy for you anyway otherwise their not your Friends in my opinion xxx

Sparrowlegs248 · 18/01/2020 21:50

I didn't but don't judge those that do. That said, someone I know dud this, and the baby was born at 21 weeks and didn't survive. This in itself has put me off if I were ever to have another.

T0rt0ise · 18/01/2020 22:04

I haven't and won't be, but that's mainly down to my paranoia and the thought of then having to do a follow up post if anything went wrong. But each to there own, if you want to, go for it.

JaneDarcy · 18/01/2020 22:05

I personally think it's tacky

peachgreen · 18/01/2020 22:07

I waited until about 30 weeks I think and just did it casually (we'd moved house and I posted some photos, including one of the nursery, and captioned it with a kind of "just for those of you who don't know already" type thing. I personally would never post scan photos as I found those really triggering after my MMC.

Elouera · 18/01/2020 22:08

I never would! The data is kept and being used for who knows what?
I'd prefer to tell friends and family myself! Its such a personal thing to just share on such an open platform- even with filters!

LolaLollypop · 18/01/2020 22:09

I "announced" on Facebook when I was 30 weeks. By then it was just a few extended friends and family members living far away who I hadn't already seen/told privately.

Like other PP, some of my food friends are having fertility problems at the moment so seemed insensitive to post any earlier. It was Christmas so I knew photos of me with a bug tummy were about to be posted!

I really don't get these people who post at 12 weeks. It's sooo early imo. We were told of an anomaly at our 20 week scan (which has thankfully resolved) but I was really glad the whole world didn't know at that point.

RedRobin7 · 18/01/2020 22:33

Having had losses I couldn't wait to announce but I also know the pain of seeing another announcement so I warned my friends who I knew it would upset ... but we don't always know who is secretly trying or hurting, etc.

We made our announcement on FB several weeks ago and I've not put anything else baby related up. It is insensitive to keep going on about it if there are people on your fb struggling - just bear that in mind 😊

RedRobin7 · 18/01/2020 22:35

Also if anything went wrong and I lost my baby, I wouldn't regret making the announcement... every baby deserves to be celebrated. I talk about the ones I lost and I would talk about this one too. It shouldn't be taboo!!!

lampshade50 · 18/01/2020 23:03

I didn't and I won't be posting about the birth either. Or baby pics etc.

I am in Watsap groups with my friends and families and will send a picture that way once baby is here.

I really enjoy seeing other people's announcements. But I have a thing with social media and posting too much- as it feels like I'm rubbing my happiness in people's faces. So I'm a bit weird and probably shouldn't even be on social media. But it's a good way to stay in touch with people far away.

WillingSpringTime · 18/01/2020 23:06

I didn't. I just told those who I wanted to know either in person or via the phone.

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