Struggling to deal with comments on size

[UterusesBeforeDuderuses]

I'm not sure why I'm writing this, I guess I just need to rant, but I'm 34 weeks pg and struggling to brush off comments people make about my size.
I know people aren't being malicious or deliberately rude, and I'm sure I'm more sensitive than some other people about it because I've had a long history of struggles with my size and my body, but why is it that being pregnant means that people think it's fine to comment on my body? They wouldn't normally!
The latest one that really has stayed with me is a couple days ago someone at worked asked me when I was due and when I told them end of Feb they stared at my bump amazed and said 'but you're MASSIVE, and you have over a month left?? Were you this big with your last one??'
I'm size 16 so not that slim and my bump is measuring big, my last baby was 11lbs at birth (didn't have gestational diabetes then and don't now) and I'm getting very anxious about another big one, so comments like that just play over and over on my mind.
Sorry about the essay just felt good to write it down. Anyone else dealing with thoughtless or insensitive comments? How do you deal with it? Feel free to tell me I'm being silly and over sensitive!

Your pregnant, you are bound to put on weight. I really think your being precious about this.

Everyone looks massive at 34 weeks - don't worry and shrug it off - or look aghast at them so they know they've upset you!

Tell them they’re being rude, because they are. Some people would rather say whatever’s in their head rather than remain silent! Don’t let it get you down, but do pull them up on making personal remarks.

I was told I was ‘enormous’ by a total stranger at 6 months

I get it

I hated people commenting on my body during my pregnancies. I actually got visibly upset a couple of times and said that it was making me feel uncomfortable. That seemed to shock a couple of people into stopping their comments.

I have the opposite problem but find it just as distressing!

I’m around 34 weeks and keep getting comments on how small my bump is, how I don’t even look pregnant, etc. It’s really been getting to me as I lost a baby prior to this pregnancy and it feels like people are implying that I’m not ‘cooking’ the baby right!

I totally don’t understand why people think that they have the right to comment on other people’s bodies, pregnant or not! I’ve kept my temper until now but I’m getting closer and closer each time to making a really personal comment back, like “I wish I could say the same about you/your belly!”

If it’s upsetting you, tell whoever said it! You’re right, they wouldn’t comment if you weren’t pregnant and I’m sure they don’t mean it in a critical way, but as you’re already worried about having a big baby, that’s not helping!
Id say something like ‘I’m fully aware of the size of my bump and, as I’m sure you can imagine, already worrying about having to birth it - how do you think calling me huge will help that?’

Tell them you can't believe how big they are and not even pregnant. People seem to lose all sense that you are actually a person anymore and not just a baby carrier, its very annoying!

I'm due end of feb and know how you feel!!
To be fair I look at them with disgust and say thanks!
It's my 3rd I've been big with all of them so am sick of people being rude! All the same comments! So annoying x

Pick something about them (bald patch, obvious Botox, massive boobs..) and comment right back. They should get the picture.

Yep

When I was pregnant I was called "tiny" and "oh you barely look pregnant, just look like you've had a big lunch tee hee hee"
Whilst deep down I was fucking seething because I felt like my body wasn't doing what it was supposed to be doing, which then made me overly worried about my babies health.
Suppose what I'm trying to say is yes we can be a bit hormonal and unreasonable but I definitely get how tempting it is to tell them to just piss off!

I can sympathise as I was also a size 16-18 when I fell pregnant and my tummy is already a problem area for storing fat. I’ve had A LOT of comments about my weight (all from lovely, well meaning people) during my pregnancy including “are you sure there are not twins in there?” from an elderly relative who has lost their filter.

I’m sorry I don’t have a solution for you. Just wanted to let you know that you’re not alone. Several years ago I was a size 10 so I also have a difficult relationship with my weight anyway and I carry a lot of guilt about how I have might be putting my baby at risk by carrying extra weight. The sonographer put in my notes that a scan had been difficult due to my body type and I cried my eyes out when I read it. Getting screened for gestational diabetes due to my BMI also hit me hard.

I think all we can do is reframe our thinking when things bring us down in our pregnancy. It’s such a cliche but personally when things get me down I focus on just how blessed I am. So many women I know have suffered so much loss and heartbreak and I have a thriving bouncing baby inside me. My weight doesn’t seem as significant when I focus on the positives.

Wishing you all the best for the remainder of your pregnancy!

I HATE it!!! Im quite small & havent put on much weight and I still hate it!!! I hate the fact people (usually middle aged men) think its their right to comment on how you look!!! Every day at work I get comments off regular staff or contractors we get in....very very annoying.

Thank you for your comments, it's reassuring to know that even if I am being a bit sensitive about it, I'm not the only one who hates the comments, whether it's being too big or too small! I'm going to try to not let it affect me (although I'm definitely going to say something if anyone calls me 'massive' )

I get it; I was small with my last pregnancy and people keep commenting on my current size compared to that and the fact that I’ve put on weight is making me very self conscious.
I don’t know why people think it’s fair game to comment on size during pregnancy

Sorry @misspiggy19 but you're being so rude- it's not nice for people to comment on anyone's size, especially pregnant women when we are already not feeling our best often.

OP don't take notice. I just give people the look and turn around if they piss me off. I am not making comments on people's weight when they are not pregnant, when they gain weight or whanever, so why should they when I am having a baby? People just take opportunity to say the most offensive things because they think they can, some think that once you'te pregnant your body becomes public property and they can comment/touch or whatever. I would just say- you're being rude, thanks, turn around and walk off.

Hi OP, It's totally understandable that these comments upset you. I feel the same way. But I actually tell people that it's not a nice thing to say to a pregnant woman and that they should watch what they say and how it can upset people. I don't see a problem with that. I just say something like ' you probably don't realise and you don't mean it in a nasty way, but it's better not to comment on anyone's body- pregnant or not'.