Age gap?

[Newmum26]

We have a DS who will be 3 in May. We want a sibling for him but I feel under pressure that everyone assumes by the time your first child is 2 you should be trying for your second.
I keep getting asked when are we having another? Are we expanding our family soon?
We have a wedding where I am bridesmaid in September so ideally we want to try after then and see what happens no pressure.
But now I'm panicking thinking my DS will be 4 if we are lucky and conceive in September.
Can anyone help with any stories or share how big your age gaps are please and how it works out?
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I think 3 years plus is becoming more popular as that's when the funding for nursery kicks in. As for practicalities each family/children/age gap is different, some close in age are great friends other hate/compete.

Go for what suits you, you can't go back in time to make the age smaller.

4 1/2 years between mine. They are currently 17 angry 13 and they get on brilliantly. Quite frankly we couldn't do two lots of nursery fees, hence gap

Almost 5 years with my first 2. 7 years between 2nd and 3rd and 12 years between 1st and 3rd.

6 and half years here. It's been good to be honest. They are 2 and 8 now and adore each other. I always wanted a big gap. The thought of a new born and toddler filled me with dread.

I love our over 4 yr gap - much less stressful than our smaller gap.

We will be just short of a 12 year age gap when dc2 is born. Started trying when dc1 was 3 and a half and it never happened - we had accepted it wouldn't ever when this one finally happened!

4 year 3 months between my DDs, and it’s great!

I'm 34 weeks pregnant and baby is due just after my little one turns 4. Ideal time to have the same quality newborn time when your eldest is heading to school but also you get to enjoy being around for pick ups etc. I think it's a lovely age gap but whatever works for you.

There is a 4.5year age gap between Dd and Ds and they have a great relationship. I'm glad Dd was at school when Ds was born, it really made the sleepless nights a bit more bearable as I could nap during the day when Ds slept. Now I am pregnant with baby no.3 and I am really worrying about how I'll cope with 2 under 2. Ds still wakes several times a night so I'm dreading the thought of having little to no sleep on a day to basis once the baby comes

The rate I'm going there will be a 8 possible 9 year gap not sure if I'm crazy but that's the plan

My oldest 3 are 4 years apart , then a big gap. So I had a newborn, 4 yr old and 8 year old , worked brilliantly no double buggy , one lot of nappy changing , only one waking up in the night . I never planned a smaller gap.

We started young, we have a 10 year gap between our boys. It's amazing. It's been a very easy ride compared to my friends who have small gaps.
Its just what life dealt us and there are many positives to having big and small gaps. Depending on your age, your finances, the help you will have from family /childcare etc

12 yrs between 1 +2
22m between 2+3..cant say I'm looking forward to it.. Dd is a handful but in a nice way. Just very explorative and has to be in the mix with everything.. Never ever just sits and chills. Even to watch TV... I know people hate this but I'd love for her to watch an hour a day or even 2 if we're stuck in.

I’m due my second in a month and my first is 4.5- to me this age gap is perfect!! I could not have envisaged having two tinies to deal with and quite frankly wanted the special one on one time with my first and then him to be at school so I could have equally special time with my second. I couldn’t imagine trying to share myself with another child before this point but that’s just me. It’s really very personal choice. Then there’s the finance side of it- this way DS1 is in school and we’ve had little in childcare fees to pay since September. I will then be off on mat leave again saving on any childcare for him and also being able to do the school run for him whilst he’s still young. He also really understands what is happening and is so excited to be a big brother. Like I say some people prefer a much smaller gap but it really wasn’t for me!

I'm pregnant with my 4th my ages are 17 /14 / 8 then due in april