Desperate for help!! Really can't sleep...

[Singsoul91]

Hi!

I'm so desperate to find a solution and if anyone can help if they know and been through the same thing.

10 weeks + 5 and I can hardly sleep.
Getting a max of 5/6 hours and waking up every 2 hours.

I've always not slept great but so much worse since being pregnant.

It's really getting to me and feel constantly exhausted. Want to at least be able to sleep before the baby arrives as deffo won't be sleeping then.

I've spoken to midwives. They send me to the doctors. Spoke to the docs. They say I need to speak to the midwives.

I feel now wants to help me and it's affecting my mental health so bad. I just want to be able to sleep through.

I've tried not being on my phone and reading. No tv. Lavender bubble bath.
Everything and no.

Really appreciate some advise as I can't carry on like this anymore

Hey, I really haven't got anything for you but just wanted to say I know how you feel so I'm sending calm and positive vibes your way. I'm 8 weeks and I get in to a pattern of either not falling asleep until a couple hours before my work alarm and then feeling crappy all day, not being able to concentrate or falling asleep at night but waking up at 4-5am and not sleeping and feeling crap all day. You just can't win. I'm so shattered and disoriented that today I walked in to my office with a baby on board badge and was horrified. Felt awkward all day! No one said a word but I know they noticed. Obviously didn't want them to know until all the scans and tests.

Are you doing any exercise? Have you tried meditation?

I'm also a terrible sleeper and both of those are critical to me sleeping.

Thank you for the positive vibes really appreciated.

Sorry to hear you both are having trouble too. Awful isn't it.

I actually had a not bad sleep. Still woke up 3 times but I slept for 8.30 TIL 7.30 this morning so I think the trick is to go to bed early as normally go about 10.30/11.

I have quite an active job well 2 jobs as I'm a care worker / massage therapist. So do tend to feel tired at night.

Last night I tried a cup of horlicks, lavender baby bath stuff and sleep meditation and definitely helped.

Recommend it!!!

Aw did no one say anything with that badge on?
Hmm yes probably a bit early to tell people at work. I'm not telling anyone till I'm 12 weeks to be safe

Hi OP the only things which have helped me are a good pregnancy pillow and a friend bought me an amazing lavender sleep spray called feather and down which knocked me out for 6 hours at a time...totally unheard of for me!

Lush 'Sleepy' cream really works for me.

I had an awful sleep at the start of both pregnancies - couldn’t switch off, really mad vivid dreams and woke up feeling worse than when I went to bed. It did pass though, by about four months when the hormones started to settle a bit. Towards the end, it was only needing to pee which kept waking me up.

Have you had any scans? I wonder whether you may sleep better once you've seen baby / heard their heartbeat?

I was exactly the same in early pregnancy; but was much better around week 12/13 when I had my first scan. I was bad again for a few weeks before my 20 week too.

Sadly a common complaint. I’m shattered. Mine is from being horribly uncomfortable at this stage.. I wake up every sodding hour with cramp in either my back or ribs! Google pregnancy insomnia, it’s a thing as well.

The worst thing is to start getting stressed you’ll be exhausted for baby etc. As it’ll just keep you awake even more. I’m on baby two & I have a toddler who is a shocker of a sleeper. I can guarantee she’ll wake up just as I’ve got back to sleep. I have no choice this pregnancy but to expect to be knackered all the time. As such, I’m just not stressing & it does help with the falling asleep bit. I drop off in seconds.

There are so many things you get worked up about with your first pregnancy that you just don’t have the luxury of second time around 🙈 my doc keeps telling me to rest, yet I’ve no idea how I’m meant to do that!

On the rest note, get napping! It’ll just top you up a bit & make you feel more human!

Thank for all your comments. Seems so common. It’s awful but hopefully should settle down.

I’ve always had trouble with sleep. Just loads worse now.

Yes we had an early scan on Christmas Eve and baby fine and heard the heartbeat ! Was surreal but amazing 😀

I’ve been going to bed earlier like 8.30 and seems to help. I work long days so can’t nap in the day but do on my day off.

Where can you buy this lavender pillow spray?? I’ve looked everywhere and can’t find it.

First trimester in this pregnancy was awful for sleeping. Had really big difficulty falling asleep and staying asleep. For me the nausea and bad taste in mouth will make it worse.

Second trimester it eased a bit, I still occasionally struggle to fall asleep but it's definitely better now.