12 week scan- terrified

[Catlady32]

Just that.... I'm terrified for my 12 week scan. I had an ectopic pregnancy last year and I just keep remembering that awful feeling in the scan room. I did have an early scan (6 weeks) at my EPU to confirm it was in the right place this time and all was well, heartbeat etc but that feels so long ago now and my 12 week scan is next week.

Anyone else been through anything similar? How did you cope with being constantly scared of things going wrong? I feel like its ruining my ability to enjoy being pregnant 😟

I've not experienced previous losses but I had really worked myself up before my 12 week scan. I have some other complications so had a scan at 8 weeks where they found a heartbeat but I was sure that I'd had an MMC because of my complications.

I worked myself up, was crying before the 12 week scan all for it to turn out fine. I'm 21 weeks now and the 20 week scan was scary as well but went really well and baby is perfectly healthy. I've started to calm down a bit more but I'm always worrying. I think no matter what you do you'll feel worried but just remember that the majority of pregnancies are non-eventful and produce perfectly healthy babies. I take comfort in looking at all the living, breathing healthy people walking around - their mums must have been worried during their pregnancy too but it all turned out lovely!

@Rebecca612
Thanks for your response! You're probably right in that there will always be something to worry about but I'll keep trying to rationalise it lol.

Is this your first pregnancy too? Do you know what you're having? X

I've had 1 MC and 1 MMC and am now 17 weeks. I've had 4 scans now - 2 earlies, 1 12 weeks, and 1 after my 16 week MW appointment because she couldn't find the heartbeat (which is apparently quite common).

I'm still nervous for my 20 week scan, but I am getting a little bit better. What's put me more at ease is starting feel movements - some days very obvious - some days none at this stage - but it is a lot more reassuring than waiting weeks to know everything is ok. I still have some dark days, but try to take each day as it comes knowing it takes us a step closer.

I hope your scan goes well.

@SnoozyLou aw I'm glad to hear your pregnancy is going well. I think, like you, once I start to feel movement later on it will help. Fingers crossed for next week's scan first, thanks! X

I'm in a similar boat, I've had 5 MC's and this is a pregnancy right off the last MC in Oct. I had a scan at 5 weeks as we didn't know when we'd conceived then another 2 weeks after where we saw a heartbeat and then another 2.5 weeks with a little wriggling baby. Each scan I'd convinced myself something had gone wrong. My longest pregnancy was 11weeks1 which is what I am today and I am rife with worry. I've booked a private scan for tomorrow in hopes everything will be okay. It's such a stressful time but I'm positive things will go amazingly for you! xx

Op after a previous loss at 16 weeks I've been anxious throughout. I had an early scan at 6 weeks due to a bleed then back again at 8 weeks, private scan at 10 week dating scan at 13 weeks, reassurance scan at 16 weeks, private gender scan at 18 weeks, anomily scan at 21 weeks, 4d scan at 26 and 27 weeks due to position, growth scan at 29 weeks. I'm now almost 31 weeks with growth scans coming up every 3 weeks and I'm still always nervous for them. I don't think I could or had more reassurance but when you've suffered a loss its hard but after the 20 week point it does get easier.

@Leebeemarie @Jesskir89

Thank you for your responses. I'm so sorry for your losses too. I think after this scan, if all is well, I'll probably book some private scans as you both have, to give me some peace of mind! Although even after a scan it probably will only make me feel better for a little while before I start worrying again so maybe regular intervals until I can feel movement and get reassurance that way might be the way to go. It's nice to know I'm not alone and it's lovely to hear that your current pregnancies are doing well x