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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

It's all going wrong.

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ginandgingers92 · 14/01/2020 18:22

This is my second baby. DS is 20 months.

I'm currently 31 weeks and it seems like everything is being thrown at me this time around.

16 weeks hospitalised with HG, after trying to deal with it on my own for all that time.
My first pregnancy (ELCS due to him being transverse) was a doddle in comparison to this. This time around I've had migraines, dizziness, rashes, nosebleeds, and just generally been feeling a lot more uncomfortable and exhausted due to being Mummy to a toddler.

20 weeks little one (LO) was found to have a club foot, short femurs, fluid on the heart and be very small. We were referred to kings for amnio which thankfully showed no genetic conditions. Told LO definitely has club foot and we would need to be scanned regularly to monitor her growth, and that she may need to be delivered early if things pointed to placental functioning issues.

My last scan before Christmas and a private scan last week all seemed well, so i allowed myself to look toward to future and prep for my much desired VBAC waterbirth. Bought a hypnobirthing book and began to get really excited about it! I didn't labour with DS and I feel it affected me mentally so I was doing all I can this time around.

Today we've just come for a further growth scan. Just as I left work I fell over into my bum, but didn't think too much of it. Firstly, LO didn't move a muscle during the scan. Really unusual because they normally kick up a storm. LO is also breech, early days definitely but the consultant said that if they remain in that position they won't atttempt to turn due to previous CS) And then the consultant found issues with growth, signs suggesting The placenta isn't working properly. Tummy is big but legs aren't growing at the same rate for example. I've been admitted to check on the movements and have steroid injections in case I need an early delivery.

LO is my priority, and I will do whatever I need to for their safety, but I'm sad and scared and I don't know what to do.
I've got amazing support from DH and family but I suppose just writing my thoughts down is cathartic.

If an early delivery is needed, will LO be ok? We're not ready yet. I've not even started going through the boxes of baby clothes we have.
So many things have gone wrong throughout this pregnancy that I can't help thinking there is a more serious issue here, aside from genetic conditions..
When LO does get here, whenever this may be, and hopefully is ok, we then have the issue of club foot to deal with, and have no idea what to expect with that either.

So sorry to anyone reading for such a long post. I don't even know why I'm writing it. I suppose if any of this stuff happened to you with your little ones and you could maybe offer me some support/advice, I'd be really grateful.

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shutupsteph · 14/01/2020 19:19

I'm afraid I can't offer much advice for everything you're going through but I'm sending love. At 31 weeks you're in a much better place to have baby and her be okay, she'll no doubt spend time in NICU and it'll be tough for you both but she's so close to full term. Don't worry about not having things ready, you and baby are all that matters. I really hope things are okay 💓

ginandgingers92 · 14/01/2020 19:37

@shutupsteph thanks so much, you're right, and I'd rather be here and know that we're in the best place, I just can't believe something else is being thrown at us.

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Keha · 14/01/2020 21:24

Sounds like you've had a tough time. I don't have any advice really. However, at 31 weeks you do have very good odds of everything being okay if she has to be delivered. Fingers delivered she can hold on a bit longer and are well supported in terms of the club foot.

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