I hate being pregnant

[Missbee2bee]

This probably sounds harsh as I heard preganancy is meant to be a joyous occasion...well..its not...not for me anyway. I hate it! And I dont feel guilty one but saying that. I feel terrible every single day. I havent eaten a good meal and kept it down in months. I constantly vommit 24 hours a day and feel like I have the flu 2.0. Every bad symptom of pregnancy I have got it on a huge scale. I'm bed bound but still have to go to work every morning which is now becoming very difficult for me. It's hard to explain to every person you meet what your going through and you may vommit on them at any given time. I cant live my life because of this.

I'm on my last year at university and trying to do my dissertation which is absolute hell being pregnant. Uni are supportive but it doesn't stop me feeling so terrible.

I feel awful saying this but sometimes I think is it even worth it? I feel like I've ruined my life every day and am very down about it all. I dont talk to my partner about anything as hes an idiot and incapable of having a normal conversation without going off on me and thinking I'm bullying him in some sort of way. Hes a big girl. Youd think he was the one that's pregnant at times. I havent told anyone about my pregnancy yet and tbh I really dont want to. Does anyone else feel this way or am I just a terrible person?

Well, I hate pregnancy too, so you are def not alone. I suffer with Hyperemesis and I feel horribly ill for 9 months. Nothing to enjoy. I become indifferent to food (after despising it for the first 16 weeks). I’m house bound for said 16 weeks but for me, things do improve & life resumes some form of normality by 20 weeks. But I never feel well. And I’m really anaemic so I feel wiped out.

You don’t say how many weeks you are? Have you spoken to your doctor? Are you on any medication for the bad sickness? It sounds like you might have hyperemesis & you really need to get some support! It’s not normal to be vomiting constantly & also quite dangerous. You may be dehydrated & need some fluids in hospital. I was vomiting 20+ times a day & couldnt keep a thing down. I was admitted 3 times this pregnancy for severe dehydration. Cannot tell you how much better you feel after 3/4 bags of fluids!

Don’t be ashamed for hating pregnancy. There is nothing to enjoy about being badly sick. No-one would expect you to be super happy and joyful about being really poorly if you weren’t pregnant! Pregnancy is really tough for some people!

Look after yourself, get a sick note from your doctor. Take time off work & ask for extensions at university. Pregnancy isn’t an illness but the sickness can be. Treat it as such!

Sorry OP newsflash for you every woman, pregnancy and baby is different. Some women hate being pregnant, or the newborn stage or the toddler stage or the breastfeeding etc....
I imagine feeling exhausted and sick ALL the time must be emotionally draining as well as physically so it’s hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Be easier on yourself

You sound like me except I am only 7 weeks . I hope it improves for you very soon x

Why are you with a partner who's such a dick?

Dude, watch what to expect when You're expecting. Laugh and feel better about hating it. You're not alone. There's nothing fun about feeling sick.

I met a friend for coffee the other day and she was like, “Are you really loving being pregnant?”

I think my face resembled this emoji:

Just that question ‘are you really loving being pregnant’ would prompt such a hysterical rant that the person asking would wish they’d never asked.
“every day since I found out i was pregnant has been such a physical struggle that it has inevitably started to become a real mental struggle too” would summarise it quite well.

Not everyone sails through this joyous time! :-)

I love having a healthy baby at the end of it so you know it all worth but I also hate pregnancy I suffer terrible sickness I'm 3 months now and throwing or being sick daily and suffer heart palpitations which I believe is hormone related i also suffer anxiety and pregnancy just enhances the worry I had this with my son too it can make you feel down but once baby Here you feel proud you got through it all because it not easy for anyone so your not alone in how you feel hope you start to feel better soon

OP you are not alone! A pregnancy with extreme sickness is horrendous. If you haven't already get yourself to the GP and get some meds, then get signed of work. Rest is the only thing that will help. I found telling a few people early on helped as they understood why I wasnt around.

I hate being pregnant and this second pregnancy has almost killed me. I wont be doing it again. That doesnt mean that I'm not grateful every day for my DD or this future baby, it just means that I dont like being incredibly ill and depressed for 9 months. You are allowed to not enjoy it, plenty of people dislike the newborn stage and they just get sympathy. I on the other hand loved newborn stage as I wasnt being sick anymore and felt like myself again!

Thanks for the advice ladies. I know this is a late reply but I've been terribly Ill. I went to the doctors and they cannot give me antisickness tablets due to my lactose intolerance. I asked if there is anything other than she was offering and she said there wasn't. My reply...do you want me to end up in hospital then? Is that what your saying?

There had been no change and I cannot leave my job. I'm 13 weeks and I need the money to get through university. I still have a life..well...trying too.
My partner isn't a dick. Hes very supportive. Amazing actually. We just have the odd day where I want to stab him in his face. Hormones will do that. Plus he hasn't got a clue how to act to make me feel better which is probably frustrating him. Nothing makes me feel better. Literally nothing. I live in bed now. I feel like some sort of pregnant hermit crab that's constantly covered in vommit. I hate this so much. I never want to be pregnant again. I dont know how people do this more than once. I'll never understand it. But fair play to you because I couldnt do it. I just want this baby to hurry up and get out of me so I can feel normal again. I miss me and I miss eating actual food and having a cheeky coffee. I'll give anything for a teeny tiny coffee. 🙁😞

You can have coffee OP. Check the NHS guidelines but I think it's something like 2 cups of normal instant a day as a max (assuming you're having caffeinated). I've had one every day... normally a big one.

I also have had a really rough time but it does get easier, you'll learn to manage it and it's not forever.

I'd want to stab people in the face if you took my coffee away. I just limit it to 2 cups a day, and if I want more switch to decaf. Same with tea.

Fgs just drink a coffee if you can stomach it. I really don't understand why people quit things that are actually not harmful. Giving up tea would have killed me and they wouldn't have been good for my perfectly healthy intelligent children either.

Loads of women hate being pregnant, it's a totally marmite thing.

When I was pregnant I was told 6 cups of tea a day. I doubt these 'guidelines' are based on evidence. Avoid energy drinks, don't go overboard on strong coffee all will be well.

Oh OP. I was in hospital with hyperemesis for 5 months of my pregnancy. I HATED being pregnant. It had me knocking at deaths door.

But I promise, when you watch your little human crawl around your house, and you see them smile at you because you’re their entire world, it’ll all be worth it.

I don't think it's the fact she doesn't want to drink it, from the way she's describing I don't think she physically can drink coffee.

I'm the same. I can't stomach anything, not even water. I'm instantly sick if I try and put any liquid in me. I feel your pain OP

@Beau2020

Have you been to the doctors for anti sickness medication?

@PPopsicle I sure have! Tried buscanett and cyclizine but neither has helped me 😔

Beau, that’ll be because they’re the cheapest and least effective anti sickness drugs you can get from the doctors.
Go back and ask for something proper

@PPopsicle what do you recommend?

Phenergan
Metoclopromide
Ondansetron

Or a mixture of them all is what I had.

I found that chewing gum made me stop feeling sick. I was awfully sick until 20 weeks with my pregnancy, and tried everything to make me feel better.

You will get there eventually. X :) X

Pregnancy sickness support are an amazing charity and their support during horrendous nausea was invaluable at the beginning of my pregnancy. They have loads of information and insight into medications to use etc - you can call or email. I really recommend them.

You can drink coffee, evidence recommends caffeine intake doesn’t exceed 200mg a day as this increases risks such as miscarriage and low birth weight. Tommy’s (baby charity) have a caffeine calculator so you can check how much you’re having. I’ve been having a lovely coffee on my way to work 3 times a week or so, it’s a real treat and I savour it! Don’t deprive yourself!

Please go & see another GP for anti-sickness. They are fobbing you off. You need help & it sounds like you might need to go to hospital. Please, please do not ignore possible dehydration. Go to A&E if no one else will listen. In the kindest way possible - what’s worse? Severe vomiting or having a reaction to lactose? Is the intolerance that bad? Could you deal with stomach ache/bloating etc if it at least stopped you being so ill?

At the very least, check out these links to a fantastic charity who support women through HG & severe sickness:

www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk/help/treatments/

www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk/get-help/

Read the website, give them a call, whatever you need. Just don’t be told by your doctor it’s normal & you are fine. If you physically cannot keep fluids down at all, you need medical assistance.

@beau2020 if you can't keep liquid down you need medical attention today. Ring 111 and I really hope you feel better soon.