Pregnant but partner doesn’t want it

[Laurajaden]

Hiya
I’m a mum to a beautiful 2 year old which was planned and we love very much. I am only 23 however knew I wanted children young
Recently we found out I was pregnant completely unplanned. We both agreed immediately that we didn’t want it. I went to the clinic and had the beginning steps and found out I was 6 weeks pregnant and what my options were. They asked my reasoning and as I tried it explain why I was crying and it felt wrong.
I was unsure for the last few weeks whether I wanted to keep it or not but my partner hasn’t wavered at all. He’s adamant he doesn’t want it. We don’t have the financial stability or the room. He also says he isn’t ready to have another one and it will take a toll on his mental health.
I am obviously upset by this, and it makes my decision harder. I came to a conclusion that even though it’s scary to be having another one right now, i don’t think I could terminate the pregnancy as I couldn’t live with the guilt and resentment.
I told my partner tonight and it’s really brought him down the decision and he’s said he feels like he doesn’t have a choice. Which is true I guess but not how I want him to feel...
I think what I’m asking is.. am I doing the right thing ?
I love my partner and the last thing I would want is this new baby to tear us apart

Has he stopped to consider the toll it will take on your mental health if you have an abortion you don't want because you've been bullied into it, not to mention the toll it would take on your relationship? It is your body. It is your choice. If you don't want it you 100% shouldn't go ahead with it.

That’s a really tough one OP. Ultimately, your body, your choice but I can understand that in a loving relationship, it’s very difficult when you disagree on something as big as this. I know I’d be really upset & confused in your position as I love my OH more than anything.

I do think a mature chat is needed. You need to explain to him that terminating the baby is something that would haunt you for the rest of your life. And badly affect your mental health. Also explain what it entails physically for you as it’s not exactly pleasant. Maybe come up with a list of positives & how you can make it work - children sharing a room etc and financially, if that’s a concern. And listen to him as well. It’s half his child & his life that’s impacted too. You need to reach a final decision together..

Sending love

Not being funny but it is your body! It takes two to make a baby so he should have been extra careful if this was the extent of him not wanting the baby. No matter how much I love my husband there is no way I would terminate a baby because it’s too much for him. Unless he’s carrying it and going through the trauma If having an abortion then no, it’s not his choice. If he leAves you over wanting to keep yours and his baby then he’s not the person you thought he was. I’d understand if it was a rusk to your life but this. No

Ultimately it’s your choice and rightly so. Obviously he is allowed to feel the way he does about it especially as you felt the same way too. It’s tough but you have to do what you are comfortable with.