Did you have to fight for an ELCS?
Mmmm yes and no.
(Due to antenatal anxiety/depression I had a lot of extra appointments with GP and consultant especially (not very useful when you see different staff every time, and as I work in MH I usually came away feeling I knew more than they did...). Eventually I got a referral to the perinatal psychology service which was much better. )
My GP and midwife both did a slightly weird thing where, when I said "I'm thinking aloud ELCS" -hoping to be given information - they said "oh right" and looked away and then changed the subject. Midwife did a bit of a cat's bum mouth as well. Not feeling very well at the time, I found it extremely difficult to say "I want a ELCS and I want you to explain the process for making that happen".
I ended up talking about it to the perinatal psychologist (well, it came up in the first session). She explained that in my Trust (they do things differently in different places), women requesting ELCS have to be seen by a psychologist before talking to a consultant about it. I was fairly
to hear that, and the psychologist seemed pretty embarrassed about it too. Ostensibly, the reason for this is to identify women who want to have a vaginal delivery but are just a bit nervous and could be supported to overcome their anxiety. Anyway, after 5 mins conversation the psych said she would fully support me in asking for ELCS. (Apparently I have a phobia of labour and a strong understanding of the relative risks of vaginal vs Caesarean delivery.)
(You'll see people on here saying "vaginal delivery is safer" - frankly, this is so vague as to be meaningless. It very much depends on how you define "safer" and the physiology of the mother and the baby, which varies enormously from case to case. Quite often, CS is safer, which is why it is performed)
Anyway. The psych then set up an appointment with the lead consultant and also spoke to her on the phone. When I went to see the LC, she asked why I was there and when I said I wanted a ELCS said "OK" and started talking me through procedures. I'd been led to expect a difficult conversation (MW had warned me that it was hard to get ELCS in my Trust) and eventually asked the LC why she wasn't trying to put me off (yeah I know). She looked at me like
and said "Your body, your choice." I think I love her a little bit. She seemed so relaxed about it all that I ended up quizzing her about specific risks and even then she said "Well, it can be an issue for some people but in your circumstances it's very unlikely. I wouldn't worry."
I guess it makes sense that the person who performs multiple CS every week would be more relaxed about it than people who don't.