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ksarah95 · 06/01/2020 03:08

Hi,

I'm 16 weeks pregnant and currently working. My work people haven't been understanding at all. They push me so much and I think to myself do they actually care about me? My health?

I used to love my job. I don't like it anymore. My job is not permanent as well. Not sure what's going to happen if I will get the job or not.

I'm thinking of applying for other places just for job security. Any advice?

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OutOntheTilez · 06/01/2020 04:13

Hi, OP, in my opinion, it doesn’t sound as though they care about you. It could be a blessing in disguise that this is not a permanent job. My advice would be to apply to other positions, but after your baby is born. I don’t know how hiring managers would react to your pregnancy.

Years ago when I was pregnant with my first, my work colleagues (very small office) began treating me differently the bigger I got, and they were not nice. When I returned to work after maternity leave, it was hell. It was clear they were angry with me for having a baby, even though my work ethic hadn’t changed one bit and I never took time off because of my son.

Meanwhile, the loudest one of the lot, who claimed that I wouldn't be able to do the job since I was a mother, took two and a half hour lunches when the boss wasn't around, which was nearly every day. Another one took three days off because one of her fucking pets was sick, and would sometimes bring one of her dogs into the office, and no one said boo.

But I, apparently, was the problem. Mmmmkay.

I was so stressed that I wound up quitting a year after my son was born, and I found a job with people a little more family-friendly. Should have left sooner.

The folks you’re dealing with are showing their hand with their treatment of you so early on, and it’s telling that you used to love your job but don’t anymore. Hang on; it could get worse. But then, I may be biased, based on my experience.

OutOntheTilez · 06/01/2020 04:16

I want to add, good luck to you, OP. I hope things work out well for you.

LH1987 · 06/01/2020 09:34

Hi, do you have a notice period? If your 16 weeks now, assuming it will take you 2 weeks - 1 month to find a job and interview etc then a 4 week notice period. This would take you very close to your due date and I think starting a new job might be a little stressful. Why not have the baby, then look after maternity leave. Then you will have had time to think through what you want from a job etc.

Good luck and Im sorry they are not being nice to you.

ksarah95 · 06/01/2020 22:08

@OutOntheTilez It's good to feel someone understands me. Why do employers get rude or harsh when they hear someone's pregnant?? They were nice to me until I got sick due to pregnancy and I had to tell them. My morning sickness started really early. It was really bad so I had to take once a week off from work.

When I go work it makes me more sick because food smell. I had to take it to HR to and they pushed my managers to sign me off to work from home. Otherwise my managers were making excuses how they to wait for GP or occupational health care to confirm if I'm fit to work at office. Then HR later mentioned managers shouldn't have to wait for anyone to confirm, how they should have signed me off asap.

I'm worried if I lose this job I won't get maternity pay. Also, we are planning to move into our own place soon. Right mow, we are living with my in laws.

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ksarah95 · 06/01/2020 22:10

@LH1987 Since mine is contract I have 1 week notice period. My manager's manager said she will give me extra time to look for a job if I didn't get this job. I wish I applied for another job sooner. I waited because I wanted to save some money before going on maternity leave. Especially when we are planning to move into our own place. I need our space.

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