Previous missed miscarriage and pregnant again

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Hi,

I previously had a missed miscarriage in 2017. I found out at my 12 week scan that the baby had no heartbeat and had stopped growing at approx 9.5 weeks. I was so heartbroken as I had an early scan at 8.5 weeks and everything seemed fine so it came as such a shock for me.

It's taken me a long time to get over this as it's such a terrible thing for any women to go through and I had already planned so much in my head of how things would be!

I am now pregnant again 10 weeks 6 days and I am waiting on my 12 week scan. To say I'm absolutely petrified is and understatement!! I had an early scan again at 8 weeks and everything seemed fine.

Anyone been through anything like this and can offer some advice or support on how to get through it?! I think I'm going to lose my head!! :(

I had a missed miscarriage in 2012.

2014 my son was born, I did have an extra couple of reassurance scans early on as I was an anxious mess. I also bought a Doppler and listened in every day from about 11 weeks 🙈 until I could feel him move.

Good luck, not long now until your 12 week scan. xx

@danni0509 so nice to hear your son was born healthy in 2014! Gives me some reassurance! Trying to not be an anxious mess is hard isn't it! Didn't even know you could get a Doppler that would work so early at home! Buying one now lol. Thanks hun xx

I had a MMC in Jan last year. Found out at 12 weeks scan baby stopped growing at 7 weeks. Then in June I had a MC at 8 weeks (there does seem to be something significant about the 7-8 week mark for me - or maybe I've just convinced myself of that). I'm now 16 weeks pregnant. My midwife and EPU gave me scans at 8 and 10 weeks as I think it was obvious I was in a state. I then had my 12 week scan. All good so far, fingers, toes, and everything crossed. I have my 16 week appointment on Tuesday, so hopefully I'll get to hear the heartbeat, but then it's another whole month until my 20 week scan.

Waiting is sooooo hard. But I found that although I really appreciate the extra scans, the reassurance is fairly fleeting. I have a 2 year old son though and thinking back, I was very anxious with him too. The start is so hard because you're so reliant on those appointments to know everything is alright. It got a lot better in my first pregnancy once I started feeling kicks, but then there's the inevitable freak out when they go quiet for a while.

I know it's really hard but for me everyday is a day closer. I was all doom and gloom, but I am getting more positive as we go along.

Congratulations by the way. Personally I wouldn't get a home Doppler as if probably do it wrong and end up even more of a nervous wreck.

I had a miscarriage at 12 week....same as you I went to the 12 week scan and was told the baby had stopped growing and I miscarried within days....
I then had another miscarriage a year later at 9 weeks....
a year later I had another miscarriage at 8 weeks!!!
Now I am 29+2 weeks and so far everything has gone absolutely perfect and excited but still very worried due to the past.
I hope everything goes well on your scan xx