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Confused!!

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84463x3 · 04/01/2020 17:47

Hi,
I found out I was pregnant whilst waiting for surgery, so surprised is the initial reaction.
My OH is happy (we've been together 18 months). He doesn't have any children. I have a DS who is nearly 14 and another for is 4.5
They both have different dads.
My last pregnancy was awful with sickness throughout and a PE.
My mum doesn't want me to have this baby, she is using my health as her reasoning. She is very much putting the pressure on.
I'm confused and scared and don't know what I want. I've just got a job with potential to climb the ladder. My OH is navy so I would be bound to moving with him if we had a kid.
Some days I want the baby and the happy ending (fairytale I know) and some days I don't.
Has anyone else felt like this?

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Delbelleber · 04/01/2020 21:16

Sounds to me like if you don't keep this baby you will be thinking about it and wishing you had.

ATmummy · 05/01/2020 02:12

Such a hard position to be in so don’t feel bad for having these thoughts and emotions. Regardless of what anyone else says or thinks it’s important that you do what is right for you.

However jobs come and go and so do bad feelings but will you ever feel right if you make the wrong decision?

Make sure you really weigh things up before making any choice.

Some say there is never a right time as you will always think of something that could be better never less look at all you have now and how a new arrival will impact this.

Sending hugs x

CloudyVanilla · 05/01/2020 02:32

Nobody should be pressuring you into a choice. I'm sorry to hear you are being put in that position.

I honestly have no advice as your circumstances do sound logistically really tricky, with 2 other children with different parents contact to arrange and a large age gap.

But ultimately it needs to be your decision, so best of luck Flowers

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