Mixed feelings about my pregnancy 😭 Help!

[OliveTreeChaser]

Hi !
I have opened this thread as I am in desperate need of advice from someone, and I cannot reach out to anyone in my family as of now 😥

I'm 25 years old and it turned out that I am pregnant ( only about 5 weeks in at the moment) and while I really wish I could go ahead with it, me and my partner have some financial issues at the moment..

He has been made redundant about 4 months ago, and given the approaching holidays season, it has been difficult for him to find a new job. I have a good job, and could technically still get company maternity leave but.. I have only been working there for 6 months and it means that I would have to tell them about it when I would have worked there for 11 months. I am very nice concerned about the judgement I could receive..

Also my partner is a loving and devoted man, with whom I have spent almost 10 years and never split up. He will soon have a good job too, once he gets back on track but is worried about how we can prepare for this financially, given that for the past 4 months, we were partially sustaining ourselves on some short term loans..

We are not married yet. We were waiting to get married in our dream country - New Zealand, where we are hoping to relocate in about a year or year and a half. We were hoping to get a mortgage there, work and then start trying.

So to sum up, the timing is very bad, as we have some serious financial hiccups. And although we mentally would love to be there already we aren't..

I desperately need advice ladies!!

I think that we grow up too much with fairytales. Boy and girl meet, have romantic wedding, buy big forever home, have 2.4 kids exactly when planned. That sort of fairytale. The reality is that most people have some shit to clean up in their life when they start a family. Could be financially, or legally (getting marriage or other documents sorted), or need to move or need to change jobs or whatever. It is a normal time in your life to throw things around to make it work.

Reading back my last post please read past any weird grammer. I think I translated some sentences a bit too literally in English 😁

@olivetreechaser thank you for your kind reply, now that I'm older I definitely see how brave Iv been. It just feels so good to be me again and have happiness back in my life as I was lost for so many years. It's amazing how one person can drain the life from you but you have no other choice than to be strong especially when your kids are involved. I hope it did help, it's such a shame you dont have more family support around you ..good luck xxx