17 week old now pregnant again

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Used protection as hubby was booked for a V in a few months, thing broke and took morning after pill straight away. Didn't work, booked for an abortion but I couldn't go through with it, became very upset, hubby supporting me and says we'll get through it no matter but this is my fourth child and we didn't picture another one especially so soon after my third. They will have the same month for their birthday (aug). I have two others one in yr 5 and other in yr 2. I think I'm just panicked as to how I will cope with two so close together, hubby is working full time and I was planning on going back into caring but that won't be happening now. I feel horrible to have backed out because it wasn't the plan, but I just couldn't do it. I suppose I am asking if anyone else has been in this situation and how they coped. Sorry if I've posted in the wrong bit. Thanks!

Didn't want to read and ditch, I've not got any experience or words of wisdom but if you know in your heart that you want the baby then who cares if it's 'to plan'. If it's not the right time for you, then it's not the right time, but it sounds as though you've made up your mind. You'll cope with it, of course you will, and with your DH support you know you've got this and think of how amazing it will be for your two youngest to grow up so close together!

Hope you're doing ok..I've two little ones 12.5 months apart and yes,it's tough initially, you're probably already exhausted as it is!I wouldn't have done things differently though,as hard as it was at the time. It's amazing to see the little bond they have together ,they've never known a time without each other(I get asked all the time if they're twins).I still had all the baby stuff around as my daughter was still so little when my son was born (he wore alot of her hand-me-downs😁)and having 2 in nappies is actually fine. It wasn't a big change to go back to night feeds etc,as my daughter was still small (and almost sleeping through the night) plus I had all the other baby paraphernalia I needed.
Go easy on yourself ,if you've family or friends around ,take them up on any offers of help & try and rest when you can.I tried to establish a routine that worked for all of us re: sleeping , food prep, etc. I moved my daughter into her own room at 8 months so it wouldn't be too big a transition when my son came along (he slept in a co-sleeper). Now they're a little bit older,they actually share a room and love it. Im sure theres loads more i could say but essentially,i would do it all over again in a heartbeat.Its hard but its definitely worth it.Sending you love and best of luck!

I was in this situation with my third. My first two were born 15 months apart and that was all I planned to have, at least for the foreseeable future. Then found out I was pregnant again when DC2 was five months old so I ended up with three born in the space of 2.5 years. It wasn’t easy at all and I did survive on autopilot for at least three years of my life but I got through it. They’re older now and have a wonderfully close relationship, I don’t regret it at all.

You will survive but one tip is to take any help offered at all, don’t let your pride get in the way.

Waited 5 years for DD2 then within 14mths had DS! It was a shock, it’s hard work, fortunately he was a very easy baby. Get this baby into a good routine and next baby into the same routine, it will come together and good that your DH isn’t too shocked ☺️

I have a 16 week old and just found out I'm pregnant again, we were trying as I'm 42 and didn't want her to be in her own although I didn't expect it to happen again so quickly I know I'm in for a tough time but I'm sure it will all be worth it to see them growing up together xx