Help advice please!!

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Me and my partner have a healthy happy two month old baby boy! However I am so so paranoid but it has been confirmed it’s not just in my head, I recieved messages on Facebook all through my pregnancy off fake facebooks that my partner is cheating on me!! Nothing ever came of it! However New Year’s Eve I had a strange feeling so went on my partners phone, he had a message off an unsaved number with only two messages ( lots were obviously deleted because it was mid conversation, they were putting four kisses and using flirty emojis! Then I opened a snapchat from same person to read it saying “you need to be in my bed with lots of emojis and kisses!!!!! I feel broken!! What do I do? I confronted him he said he made a mistake and doesn’t know why he did it but he won’t tel me what he was saying to her! This is what my mind cannot take, I feel like a paranoid mess! I thought we were happy!

Op I'm sorry to read this. Only you can make the decision on what to do next. For me personally it's clearly been ongoing and I wouldn't trust him and would think of it every time I looked at him. I hope you're OK x

This is what I am struggling with, every time I look at him I imagine things of what he has said too her and then I wander if there was any more women?! But I feel too weak too leave, I never wanted too be a single parent! I’m scared of doing it on my own! Thank you for reading and replying x

I understand its not ideal for anyone but you're worth more than that. What's your partner been like since you found out? Could you ever trust him again? X

Thankyou! He has been overly nice almost too a point where I want too cringe! Has also changed the password on his phone which makes me think he’s just going to carry on! Xx

Do you know if he has acted on it or is it just messages?

Wrong either way and I couldn’t trust my husband again if he had done that but if you’re unsure of how you feel this might influence your decision. Sit him down and get some answers.

Sorry you’re going the through this.

I think you need to sit down with him and have an honest conversation about everything he's done and every person he has spoken to. You can't even begin to process this information without knowing the true extent of his actions. I'd suggest making it as emotionless as possible, (easier said than done) and make him get it all out in the open, else you really have no choice but to leave. If it were me I could never ever trust him again without knowing the whole truth, at least if you knew everything and could truly believe you knew everything you could try to rebuild the trust he's destroyed?

I'm so sorry your going through this, especially with a 2 month old!
I would personally sit him down and ask him what has happened as if it is just messages it may be forgivable, but if it is anything else i'm not so sure.
I would not be happy that he has changed the password on his phone either, that would raise suspicions like you said about him carrying it on!
I understand it's hard as raising a baby alone is not what you ever imagined and i wouldn't want to do it either, but you also can't be treated like this especially when you have just given birth to his son!

Op how are you doing? Did you speak to your partner? And has he said why he's changed his password? X

I don’t know!! But he won’t tell me and won’t talk about it so that makes me think he’s acted on it because he is always out!! Plenty of time to be doing things!

I don’t think he will ever be able too be honest with me about things he lies about a lot!! So I guess I’m just never gonna know, I’m either going to have to just get on with it or leave, never knowing the truth! I even phoned the girl and tried to get some answers but she just laughed down the phone at me and said ask him! So that made me think even worse!

Me too, I just feel so bad for my son, I don’t want him growing up with me being miserable worrying if I’m getting cheated on all of the time! He just will not tell me, he tried to lie about even having her number but I’d already seen it all, he makes out like I am crazy and seeing things and sometimes I even end up believing him even though I’ve seen things! I guess the saying love is blind really is true!

I think I’m okay! I don’t quite really know, still feel all over the place, tried too talk and I told him if he is not happy with me too leave, he said I am all he wants! But I just don’t believe a word that comes out of his mouth anymore because he is a liar! Guess I just came on here for some support and advice xx

Op sorry for the delay in responding. This girl sounds awful you'd think she would be mortified not laugh down the phone.... Have you spoke to friends or family about it? It sounds like you know what you need to do, as scary as it is but your partner clearly doesn't support you much if he's always out anyway... Hope you're OK x

She is but I’m not sure if she’s just playing games with me and nothing happened but texts! But my partner will still not sit down and talk about it he just keeps telling me too leave it, and I really can’t!! But no I haven’t spoken to any family or friends about it😢 x

You need to tell him if he wants the relationship to work you need answers. I'm sorry you're going through this x

I’ve told him I think he just thinks I’m constantly going to stay no matter what, but my mind is in overdrive!! Thank you for supporting me and just talking to me x

Stay strong op and do what's best for you and your boy. Don't stay and be unhappy with someone you don't trust x