Feeling awful

[Sickandsicker2020]

Hi,

I’m about 7 weeks pregnant and I feel so miserable. I feel sick from the minute I open my eyes in the morning until I finally go to sleep. I’m exhausted and although I’m not actually being sick much, I’m obsessing about whether I’m going to be. I’ve tried all the ‘tricks’ but nothing is helping.

I feel so ungrateful but my mood is so low. I have been off work for Christmas which has meant I can just take it easy/ feel sorry for myself but I go back in on Monday and I’m not sure how the hell I’m going function.

I know I’m not the first person in the world to get pregnant and feel rotten but I don’t seem to be able to snap out of my low mood.

Any recommendations/ kind words/ kick up the backside will be gratefully received.
TIA

I unfortunately don't have any advice for you but I feel your pain. In the exact same boat.. I can't stomach the smell of cooked food, can't stomach hot food for the last 2 weeks. I've had a shitty boring Christmas with sandwiches and crackers. I'm just miserable not being able to enjoy my Christmas break off work 😫 .. 7 weeks and counting down until I hit 2nd trimester. We'll get through this 💪

This was me. Looking back I feel so bad for DH because he was excited and I was so miserable. I would come home from work and just sit in front of the tv all evening.

I started a routine - 30 min walk after work, a household chore, dinner, bath, reading in bed. I repeated this for weeks and it made me feel much better.

10w was a turning point for me. I felt the fog started to lift and I managed to stomach more food.

You’ll get there!

I know it's the last thing you'll want to do but keeping busy is helping me!

I’m 6 weeks and I feel exactly the same - two weeks ago I felt sexy and couldn’t keep my hands off my husband, now I feel sick non stop ( don’t actually do it though) and new symptom this week is feeling knackered.

I feel so ungrateful moaning but it’s so hard.

You need to find the hypermedia thread on here. It's full of kind women and great advice.
Do not be afraid of getting some medication to help you through!

Look up the pregnancy sickness support website too.

Just because you're not actually vomiting doesn't mean it's not seriously hideous.
For me being sick wasn't much bother, it was the constant nausea I couldn't cope with.

In exactly the same boat currently I’m 7+4 and just feeling like shit. Lots of nausea, some vomiting and just generally feeling gross and tired 24/7. Luckily had 2 weeks of annual leave over Christmas and new year but going back to work next week and can’t think of anything worse. Counting down until the 2nd trimester tbh!

Jumping on this thread as I totally feel your pains!! I'm just over 10 weeks and have been absolutely shattered for the past few. Luckily I've been off work for Christmas but I'm dreading getting back to normality and wondering if I'll manage to stay awake for a full 8hrs at my desk 😂

I am just coming out the other side of this. My advise is to get yourself to the doctors for antisickness meds. I have only been sick 5 times between 6 weeks and 11 weeks but the constant nausea FLOORED me. I just couldn't function at all, never mind going to work or doing any chores. I couldn't make myself food and could hardly wash myself. After two days on antisickness meds I felt like I could get through it, and actually after a few more days I felt well enough to come off them and have been pretty much ok since then (comparatively).

Just coming on to say there is hope for you. At 7 weeks I couldn't even keep water down. At about 11 weeks I started getting some days off from being sick and now at 15 weeks I haven't been sick or even felt that sick in about 2 weeks! I remember feeling miserable at the time. There was even a moment I wished I was even pregnant. Hold out hope for the light at the end of the tunnel! Sickness bands did take the edge off it a bit for me so give those a go. If they don't work then talk to your gp!

Thank you so much for your replies. It has helped so much to know I’m not being mard! Sorry to hear you’re all suffering too.

Part of me feels I should ‘just pull myself together’ but on the other hand I really don’t feel like I can.

I’m so scared about going back to work next week. It’s such a full on job and just having a shower and getting dressed nearly sees me off at the minute.

It's ok to feel rotten and it's ok to complain!
Sometimes being pregnant sucks. It's exhausting, nauseating and often painful.

Enjoy the good days and remember the hard days will pass. It'll all be worth it in the end ❤️

I was also floored from week 6 - I didn’t expect it to be so hard and I felt like a failure as women have been managing to have babies for millennia!

I’m now week 10 and the nausea disappeared like magic 2 days ago. It’s made such a difference and I can handle the fatigue so long as I’m not feeling like I’m going to throw up every 2 minutes.

You’re not alone, you’re not failing and this will pass! Hang in there and give yourself a break

I’m sure you’ve already tried but I found wearing travel sickness wrist bands a lifesaver. I mean they didn’t cure the problem completely but certainly made it more bearable! I was only physically l sick about once a week from 5-8 and then again 10-14 but felt constantly sick all the time especially from about 4am-3pm so as soon as I woke up if it was around that time I’d pop the bands on and just found it more manageable. All my nausea randomly disappeared for a couple of weeks from 8-10 and then again after 14 weeks completely.
Hope you feel better soon! I sympathise a lot of people were saying how great it was I wasn’t throwing up all the time but don’t think they realised how bad nausea can be!

It’s awful. I had to book time off work so that I was working every other day, is that possible for you? I also found eating / snacking at my desk helped and a quick walk at lunchtime to freshen up. I also spend long periods of time in the toilet with my head on my knees praying for the day to end... but it will pass x

You have my sympathy. I was poorly more or less non-stop from week 5 to about week 20 when it finally stopped consistently. I did have a random week respite at 15 weeks while I was on holiday which was very strange as the minute I landed back in the Uk, the sickness started straight away again!
On a normal day, I would be sick the minute I woke up and then several times during the day and felt nauseous every second of the day. Lost over 1 1/2 stone the first trimester and struggled to keep down water. Ended up in hospital on a drip at one point. Nothing the drs gave me helped and none of the food recommended helped. I literally wanted to throttle anyone who mentioned ginger bloody biscuits to me, as if I hadn't tried those already! 😂
In the end I found just getting into a routine was key. I spent most of those 15 weeks doing the exact same thing everyday and it really helped to make the weeks fly by.
I am now 28 weeks and have been feeling relatively normal now for a while but I am starting to get into the uncomfortable phase and it is really effecting my mood again. Can't say I have enjoyed this pregnancy at all but it will all be worth it in the end.
Not sure if I will ever do it again though!