Boy or Girl?

[Borderpup]

Happy New year everyone. Had my 12 week scan yesterday and I would like some help figuring if it's it a boy or a girl. It's my first baby so I don't really know about nub theory or anything like that. Any guesses please?

OP, I'm so sorry there's been such a negative reaction to your beautiful post! Of course it doesn't matter if it's a boy or a girl, it's just nice to wonder, isn't it? People look for anything to criticise.

I would say you're definitely having a boy, but I'm no expert. Congratulations and I hope you have an easy, healthy pregnancy! X

You've missed the point, it really doesn't matter what you think at all. Its none of you business.

Nor yours.

🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤣some people!

I haven't put forward a point or opinion.

OP, its fun to find out, and I wanted to know as well. I couldn't wait to know, found out im having a boy and now I cant wait to meet him.

Good luck for the rest of your pregnancy!

I find this woman-shaming re finding out the sex (as if women who do so are shallow or stupid and have a sinister preference) bizarre. Aside from the fact that speculating can be joyful and exciting, pregnancy can be quite an anxious time and it can be hard to imagine your baby in the real world. Finding out the sex enables you to begin imagining the baby, to choose names, to connect with the person you are growing - it doesn't have to have anything to do with concepts of gender (and it’s reductive to make it that way). To do so, and to construe that a woman wanting to find out the sex of her baby is therefore shallow or sinister, shows a complete lack of imagination and empathy imo

Boy op.

Totally agree with @GryffinDora Finding out the sex is a bit of fun, you can start referring to the baby by their name once you've chosen it and it helps to make everything seem more real - pregnancy is a strange and often uncomfortable/stressful time. Why shit all over a bit of joy that a pregnant woman and her family can experience together? I found out with both my two - I genuinely didn't care what sex I was getting but it was fun to find out! In fact the only person I know who suffered real gender disappointment actually didn't find out what she was having and ended up crying in the delivery room when her son arrived as she was hoping for a daughter. So not finding out at scans doesn't stop people having a preference.

Also I think girl OP. Come back and let us know!

The baby is what it is and has no control over that.
They need to be welcomed as just that, a baby.
Gender disappointment had a very negative affect on the baby.

See thread on Pregnancy
'Help- Extreme Gender disappointment'

You seem to have missed the point - please re-read my post! Finding out the sex of the baby doesn't necessarily have anything to do with gender preference and it shouldn't be automatically assumed that that's the case

You've missed my point which is to say, by all means find out the sex of your baby, but, to ask yourself why you want/need to know.

I feel like this has been answered

With all due respect this is what most grown adults do, in quite a matter of fact way, without having to be told off by somebody on the internet - after all, finding out the sex of your baby is a decision that you think through. It's a bit patronising and belittling to suggest that people don't think about why they want to know just because they demonstrate excitement about knowing. And it's also not fair to suggest that if they do stop to think about why they want to know then they'll probably find out that they're selfish gender essentialists.