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Had a c section a week ago and want sex

41 replies

Shannon22 · 01/01/2020 21:38

I had a c section a week ago and wondering how long it was before others started having sex, I feel like I really want it but don’t know how long I should wait.

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Bourbonbiccy · 01/01/2020 21:42

Have the docs advised a time in which it will take for you to heal properly.

My friends H/V told get off for hoovering about 10 days after a c section so not sure on the sex front.

Everyone is different so just be sure to be safe and properly healed.

BellatrixLestat · 01/01/2020 21:45

About 2 months for me. Maybe longer.

Physically, I'd definitely have been fine earlier, but was the last thing on my mind at the time.

I think as long as you feel physically ok and take it easy (no crazy positions!), you should be fine.

popcorndiva · 01/01/2020 21:49

I was still heavily bleeding a week after. It's not advised at all. I was told off for picking something up never mind having sex

Perid0t · 01/01/2020 21:49

I waited 6 weeks and it was too painful (laboured and was bf so hormones said no). Tbh I couldn’t bear the thought with all that blood, night sweats, lactating and a screaming baby at all hours but to each their own!

Rollonspringtime2020 · 01/01/2020 21:51

10 days here Blush

SirVixofVixHall · 01/01/2020 21:52

Really not a good idea so soon. You need to heal, and that takes time. Six weeks minimum.

DearTeddyRobinson · 01/01/2020 21:53

I'd check with the midwife tbh, aren't you still bleeding? I think there's an infection risk or is that with vaginal births only? Personally I couldn't face it for 2 months!

Bubbinsmakesthree · 01/01/2020 21:54

Wow, I am amazed you can feel mentally or physically ready!

But I would seriously not think this could be wise at this stage. You’ve just had major surgery. You need to be careful just standing up!

StillWeRise · 01/01/2020 21:56

do you really want it?
or does he?
so many reasons why you wouldn't....

Spacerader · 01/01/2020 21:56

I think its up to the individual, what one person is capable of another might ot be.

As long as your careful and known your limits crack on and do what you want

Kezmum14 · 01/01/2020 21:56

Within the first 2 weeks for us. I’d stopped bleeding and it was all fine no problems.

pallisers · 01/01/2020 21:56

10 days here blush

me too. I had stopped bleeding though. Took me 12 weeks after the vaginal birth though.

Heismyopendoor · 01/01/2020 21:57

Six weeks minimum. Your insides still have to go back the same as if you had had a vaginal birth.

user1493413286 · 01/01/2020 21:59

My midwife told me that I could whenever I was ready but probably best to wait until any bleeding has stopped. Also use protection as you can still get pregnant even days after having a baby.
I waited 6-7 weeks and still had to stop the first time as my scar felt uncomfortable

SleepingStandingUp · 01/01/2020 22:03

Well I think there's a difference from being horny and wanting some satisfaction to wanting to be vigorously impaled with his throbbing member so soon after major surgery.

I think given you should be on restricted activity for 6 weeks, I would suggest he does something less invasive and energetic for the moment.

I'm nearly 3 weeks down the line, totally understand the hormones but still bleeding and stomach still hurts so he's got no chance 😂😂

Namestranger · 01/01/2020 22:06

Body wand?? 😂

Idontkowmyname · 01/01/2020 22:27

Op it’s an infection risk since the cervix has not fully closed. That and you’ve just had major abdominal surgery.
As a pp has said, do you really want to or is is because you feel obligated or think it’s something you should be doing.
It’s not worth risking permanent damage or infection for a few mins fun

LouH1981 · 02/01/2020 07:18

@Perid0t Slightly off topic (sorry OP) relieved to hear I’m not the only one experiencing night sweats. I was getting a bit concerned but I assume they are quite normal then?

Original poster
Shannon22 · 02/01/2020 08:21

I’ll speak to the midwife as bleeding has nearly stopped, I want it but think we’ll wait a bit longer.

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Perid0t · 02/01/2020 08:27

@LouH1981 yup. Hormones! I had a lot of water retention with my first so had it for weeks. Had to change the bed in the middle of the night at points. Had it again with number 2 but not as badly (retained much less water) x

1300cakes · 02/01/2020 08:29

If you want intimacy/to get off why not do something other than intercourse together. Eg, use fingers or a toy externally.

LouH1981 · 02/01/2020 08:50

@Perid0t Oh thank goodness. Not at the sheet changing stage (that sounds horrendous!) but freaky nonetheless. Good old hormones...again!

happycamper11 · 02/01/2020 09:19

I definitely wouldn't, your would will have barely healed and still prone to rupture - far too much activity for down in that area just now!

Engard · 02/01/2020 10:36

Crikey no. The pain will put you off sex for life. Give it a few weeks to let yourself heal.

Rollonspringtime2020 · 02/01/2020 10:55

SleepStandingUp I feel you may have a budding novel career with your romantic phrases...
"Wanting to be vigorously impaled with his throbbing member"...
Grin