Having a second baby

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I am 15+3 with my first baby and I'm pretty sure this will be my first and last baby! I have a health condition that makes pregnancy harder and I have been so severely sick throughout, my blood pressure is low so I'm always dizzy, I have migraines and awful anxiety and I can't go to work anymore because of all this (luckily I have an amazing supportive DH)

I can't imagine going through this again and I'm only 15 weeks! I look at women who have multiple children and admire them so much! They are gods in my eyes.

So my question is, do you forget all of this after you give birth and meet your baby? Am I just weak and everyone else copes better than me! Has anyone else had a tough pregnancy and didn't mind doing it again? 😊

I always wanted 2 and am pregnant with my 2nd. I can't say I'm keen on pregnancy and birth terrifies me (not that I had any problems with the c section last time). But it's a means to an end and I want another one.

My friend was adamant she wouldn't both before and after she had her son. She's done a complete u-turn.

I've always wanted 2 children. Hated my first pregnancy (didn't have much sickness or any severe issues but I did have debilitating PGP). The birth was rather traumatic. Having a baby was a huge shock to the system, the sleep deprivation and general stress of parenthood took their toll on my mental health and marriage. Despite all that, I love my DS more than words can say, and I still want 2 children (I think growing up with a sibling is an important experience whether you get on or not) so I am now pregnant with DC2. I am not exactly relishing the prospect of pregnancy and childbirth again. But it is a means to an end.

I’m an only child & have always been adamant I was having a big family, probably 4 children.. then I had baby one. Hyperemesis, severely low iron, lost weight, hated every minute of pregnancy. I also didn’t find early motherhood easy, despite a very planned baby & longed to be a mum it was a huge shock to the system. It took me a long while to enjoy motherhood but once we found our groove, all was well. Can’t say I love the ridiculous toddler tantrums & daily battle of wills but I do love my daughter more than anything!

I had resigned myself to only having one but gradually over time, the memories of the horror of pregnancy faded & I found myself watching how much my daughter loves being around other children. Friends fell pregnant again. The longing to give her the sibling I never had (& so badly wanted) grew & eventually just after she turned two, I knew I’d suffer another pregnancy to have the larger family I dreamed of. Yes, it’ll only be two children and not four but it’ll do just nicely!

I’ve had an even worse second pregnancy, I’ve ended up in hospital several times with another round of hyperemesis & it’s been a real challenge with a toddler. I’d go as far to say as possibly the worst 6 months of my life 😬 But I’m getting through it knowing I’ll get another wonderful daughter & I’ll never have to do it ever again! Roll on March!

Bol87

You're on the home straight now! Also March is a lovely month to have a baby

I think 2 is the perfect number. I am looking forward to being done after this one (provided all goes well 🤞🤞🤞)

I had a shit pregnancy first time, sick all the way through and went from cycling miles and miles to barely moving for eight months. Had a third degree tear during the birth and then had a baby who didn’t sleep through until fifteen months. But I always knew I would have another. Neither my sister nor DH’s brother want children so DS has no cousins. I didn’t want him to be lonely and relying on friends to always be there for him or to put him in the situation where he might be without a partner and having to deal with the loss of parents, aunt and uncle (bit morbid, I know!). Plus we did like the first child and wanted a second little person for our family! Second pregnancy was worse, ended up medicated and in hospital but the birth was great, five hours start to finish. He’s fitted in well with us, his brother loves him and we’ve learned a lot from number one in terms of what to bother with and what to care less about. But definitely no more!

Honestly I forgot. I got pregnant again remembering I was sick but completely forgot how bad. It's only when I was sick again that I remembered I actually said to my husband "I'm never doing this again I cannot physically do this again". Cannot believe I forgot I said that!!

Hello all

Really inspirational to hear your stories of getting through a bad pregnancy and having the courage to do it again.

I am 17 weeks with baby no 1 and I am already sure I won’t do this again. I think I’ve had a relatively normal first trimester, but I am not easing into the process at all. I feel a bit wobbly, a bit sick and a bit scared at all times. I really hoped i would start to embrace it in the second trimester. Any advice on how to go with it and not be so aware that I am pregnant and all these strange things are happening and will continue to happen for months. Maybe by the second time you all felt more confident as knew what to expect?