It still feels so unreal

[macaco]

I'm just 6 weeks gone today and this was a planned pregnancy but happened a bit faster than I expected . I'm going to see the doctor today to confirm it etc but nobody except dh knows.
My boobs are a bit tender but other than that I don't really feel pregnant. Having said that I do feel vaguely queasy today...perhaps nerves about the doctor.
I'm pleased to be pregnant and looking forward to being a mum ....I can imagine myself with a child (I always imagine myself with a toddler strangely enough) but I'm not feeling all maternal or glowing or anything. I just can't seem to believe I'm pregnant. I'm feeling a bit scared about the whole pregnancy/birth thing actually. It all feels a bit like it's happening to someone else. Perhaps it feels so strange cos noone knows and it's so early. Anyone else felt any of this? It's all normal isn't it? I bought a pregnancy book but it's sitting on the shelf scaring me slightly!

[Bouncingturtle]

Yep I second that congratulations

[Jbck]

Way too early to glow, too early to have sunk in & too early to tell people so it seems surreal.
It'll take a few weeks before you actually feel pregnant & then you'll be dying to 'show' so people realise you're pregnant and that could take ages too when it's your first. I was 6.5 months before I had a proper bump first time, even then it was neat till the very end.
Try really hard to relax and enjoy all the good days when you still feel yourself.
Good luck & congrats!

[macaco]

well I've been to see the doctor now (I'm in Spain) and have appointment on Monday for bloods and urine and next stop midwife. Now it's official. Think I might keep it to myself a bit longer though. When did other people tell families?

[filthymindedvixen]

many people choose to wait until around 12 weeks but many of my friends guessed mush sooner.

[sweetkitty]

Don't think it ever sunk in that I was having a baby of my own even when I felt her kick and had the scan. I thought I was buying clothes for someone elses baby when I bought her clothes. Only when we brought her home from the hospital did I realise she was my baby.

Congratulations it is great fun and very exciting with your first.

[vole3]

It still doesn't seem real when you have the beachball in front!
I found it really great knowing there was a new life in me and no-one else knew, other than DH of course. I did mean to keep a diary of my thoughts but never got round to it.
Enjoy each day as it comes and try and do those things with DH that you won't be able to do quite so easily next Easter i.e. go to the cinema, museum, weekend away etc.

[macaco]

I think it's easier at the mo that no one else knows...I can kind of ignore it! Might be telling my mum quite soon cos I think she'll guess once she's seen the awful bruise they'll give me next week at my blood test. also brother's visiting so would like him to know before he goes.
My friend's literally just had a baby and seeing her photos made me feel a bit more maternal. I think at first it's just so abstract. I haven't got any pregnancy symptoms either kind of can't believe there hasn't been a mistake and I'm not actually pregnant at all

[beansprout]

Nature is very clever and we have 8/9 months to prepare for a baby - physically, emotionally etc. It's completely normal to feel like this at this stage, esp as there are no real symptoms yet. There are lots of good websites that give you week by week information on being pregnant that may help you feel that it is all a bit more real! And congratulations!!!

[PurlyQueen]

Big congratulations to you!
Despite numerous pregnancy tests and a 6 week scan (when the baby just looks like a bean) it was only at the 8 week scan when I saw a heartbeat that I thought 'Now I believe!'
So far I haven't had many symptoms either, though I'm sure they'll kick in with vengeance soon. Relax as much as you can and enjoy the fact that you don't feel too rough!

[macaco]

Thank you all so much for your responses. It IS a big thing to get used even when planned. I'm feeling much better about things now...I think having visited the doc this morning it's all starting to seep in a bit now. I think I'm going to switch off (as much as I can) and not worry too much as I'm not even having bloods til next week. Have to make a mw appointment (although don't know when it'll be for) so expect that'll make things a bit more real.
Thanks all for your messages, makes me feel less of a freak. Everyone always seems to be so deliriously happy to be pregnant...it's weird to feel detached.

[OriginalUglyBetty]

Congratulations! dont worry it is completely normal to feel like that at this stage.

I even did with my second, mine also were planned but happended 1st time you would have thought i would have been very prepared for the second!

Once again congratulations

[teuch]

Congrats! It is THE weirdest thing to know you are pregnant, since I reckon that in nature most animals don't realise wtf is going on until they get the urge to build a nest and babies appear!!