I think my mum is an alcoholic

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Sorry if I shouldn't post on this topic board, I did post in health but I think it's quite a quiet forum.
I'm expecting my first baby. The father isn't involved so I really need to support of my family, and sometimes my mum is great and there for me.
But since I can remember she has been a heavy drinker, she does hold down a job but drinks every evening and a lot more on the weekends.
I try to avoid speaking to her in the evenings as she is unpredictable when she's drunk - she will often start crying and having a go at me for various things completely out of the blue. She lives with her husband who drinks often too.
I have tried speaking to her when she's sober but she gets very defensive and says it's normal for her generation to drink every evening - talks about it always end in a row.
Today I went round after work at 5.30, she hasn't been working today and was clearly drunk. The usual pattern followed. I left and she text me a horrible message. I've never done this before but I've blocked her on everything, I text her husband telling him I'm not willing to speak to her until she admits she has an issue. I feel bad but I don't know what else to do.
I thought I'd be able to rely on my mum for help when the baby arrives, to babysit occasionally etc, but I won't feel happy too while she's still drinking.
Has anyone experienced similar, and been able to get through to their family member? I feel so lost and I don't know what to do next, and I'm worried I won't have the help I need when I have my baby

I’m sorry.

You won’t be able to rely on her to have sole charge of the baby, no matter what. I know it’s unfair. But alcoholics can’t be trusted and no amount of logic or begging from you would help it.

I’m in a similar position with a family member and I have to accept that I can’t change it, I just have to control the parts I can - so the baby can never be in her sole care, no matter how fine she might seem.

Hi OP, I'm an alcoholic in recovery for many years. Unfortunately your experience is far from uncommon but there really isn't anything you can do until your mother herself accepts that she has a problem and actually wants to address it.

Absolutely I wouldn't rely on your mother to babysit your child alone, no matter how strong her assurances that it will be fine.

Hi op I 100% know what your going through I'm 23weeks father not involved and my mum is also I heavy drinker gets worse every year I also blocked her on everything as I didn't need the abusive texts when she was drunk she ended up in hospital from her drinking a few months ago looked like she was finally going to accept she had a problem and get help unfortunately this lasted 2 weeks then she was back drinking everyday unfortunately no matter what you say or do it won't make a difference your mum has to admit she has a problem and get help for herself and if she's in an environment where her husband also drinks that's not going to happen so I think u need to go forward without been able to count on her help or support. Please feel free to pm me if u ever want to talk

Nc with mine for same reason
Meant to be getting induced later today
Shame her booze is more important than her only dc and gc but I’m better off without her

You can’t force someone with an addiction to stop they need to recognise it themselves. Try offering some practical help ie attending the dr with her or aa meetings.