Partner wants abortion and i dont know what to do

[Mumof5sam]

So i found out a week ago, i am pregnant with baby 6!! Other half wants an abortion and is not happy at all. He said if i keep baby he will be there but the way hes speaking.. im not sure he will! We have 5 children and i am supposed to be going to uni in september (would be due august 2020.. rubbish timing) and i have worked so hard to get where i am. I personally dont think i could go through with an abortion. I know 6 kids will be chaos but i also know i will love this baby as much as i do my other children.
I know no one can tell me what to do, i just want some advice as im really struggling! Or if there is anyone who has or was from a big family, please tell me how you coped!

I think if he doesn't want another child then you need to make your decision based on could you cope alone with 6? What would that do to your other 5 kids quality of life? Is there any benefit to another sibling for them? I'd make my decision based around the children I already have.

Maybe he's just worried because you already have 5 children and have plans to start uni? You need to sit down with him and have a decent conversation and decide between both of you. Tell him you don't think you can have an abortion and are worried he may leave. The only ones who can make the decision is yourself and your oh.. Well it's mainly your choice as its your body. You need to think could you cope with another child? Are you financially OK to be able to afford another child.. You say you have worked hard to get to uni so you need to think that may have to be put off for another couple of years is that what you want to do so many things you do need to think about properally but I do think the best thing is having a proper conversation with your OH about it

I think only you can know if you can go through with this, either the pregnancy ir the abortion, as you are in fact the only one going through it.

Horrible and difficult time for you, and how do you feel, will perhaps always feel knowing he wanted this baby aborted.

Were all previous five babies actively planned and wanted? If not, that has quite a bearing on this.

He's been party to the pregnancy which was easy, but he's not party to an abortion, very easy for him to say

how old are your other DC? Does your university have any childcare arrangements you could make use of, perhaps if you deferred a year?

My children range from 8 (would be 9 when baby arrives) to 2. I have said i am happy to take a year out and start uni in 2021 instead. That doesnt bother me, the kids are more important. Im only 26, so as far as im concerned uni can wait if it needs to as im still younger than a lot of the people on my current college course. We both work full time, so money again wouldnt be an issue, plus we still have pretty much everything we would need already. Only 2 pregnancies were planned and one of those was a twin pregnancy. We agreed after baby 5 we would stop. I agree with a lot of OH points, i just dont see them as good enough reasons to terminate a pregnancy. Hes an amazing father and had doubts about baby 5 but they soon disappeared when we had our first scan. He says it would be the same this time, and hed be happy when baby is here but i dont want him to feel like im forcing him into something he didnt want.

It is such a personal decision, but I think in your position I would struggle to terminate if I could afford to have the baby. I totally understand your concerns about forcing your DP into it, but would you resent him if you had a termination?