Hand-me-down pushchair

[brummiemumm]

I'm seeking advice on whether I'm being irrational and impractical. When I found out I was pregnant, a friend offered their pushchair to us and we were very grateful and said yes. I've seen the pram once, and know it's a good make but can't really remember it. I was hoping to get a bit of a test of it at some point and as baby is due in a couple of months we've been asking when we can collect it but she is now saying they're still using it for a while. My hubby and I are really enjoying buying things and have saved well for this baby so don't need to scrimp and have everything second hand. Now it's getting closer to the time, I'm starting to feel like I want to know what pram I'll be using... plus I know hers is blue and we could be having a girl. I've seen one I like that we can afford but am torn between just going and buying one or waiting until the one she's promised us is finished with. Plus my parents have offered to buy one as their gift to us... help!

If you'd be happier buying your own or getting it gifted by family just let your friend know! I'm positive she wouldn't mind, and that means she could potentially sell hers on. I had a lot of friends offer things and we were really honest when we didn't need/would prefer to buy our own and there was no awkwardness or negativity

Second hand is absolutely fine, as is putting a girl in a blue pram. But I can understand why you are anxious about it not being available yet. If I were you I would say no thanks to friend, research what you actually want, and then buy it second hand.

Yanbu to be anxious at not knowing when they'll give you the pram

Yabu to say it's blue and you have a girl

Second hand is absolutely fine, as is putting a girl in a blue pram

Agree with this but tbh research one you want and get it as you can afford it.

Just bear in mind that within 12 months you will prob be looking for a lighter weight stroller. I went through so many ( mostly reviews or second hand).

Agree if you've still got a few months to go, rather than causing stress between your friends just say your parents want to buy you one so thank you very much for the offer! It may be they were offering it for in a few months time when your baby is closer to arrival.

I'd also be clarifying if she wanted it back. I'd happily accept a gift of a second hand one if timescales worked but I'd never accept loan of an item that has high wear and tear naturally.

Sorry I know you can put a girl in a blue pram I guess if I was choosing my own I'd just go for something more neutral like grey or beige but that's just personal taste I guess.
I feel like I'm being silly but really would like to test some out. Plus I'm only little and worried about weight of the pram so want to choose a lightweight one.

Just buy your own that way you can keep it for if you have another. If you have a mothercare still open nearby, you can get absolute bargains as they are selling off everything.

Sounds sensible OP. Just don't choose beige.

Buy your own or let your Parents buy one and if your worried about telling your friend just say you are very grateful for her offer but your parents really want to buy you one as a gift :)

If you have one nearby John Lewis do a free nursery tour and you can try out all the buggies. I’m also small and want a light pram and managed to find one I’m pleased with. You can then buy it second hand on eBay or Facebook marketplace. I would tell your friend your parents really want to buy you it as a gift.

You're not being silly if you would prefer a new pram.
We got a lot of stuff second hand, but the pram was something we did want new.

If your friend is still using theirs, just send them a message telling them you've been offered to go buy a new one as a gift. I'm sure they won't mind. That way even if they want rid of theirs, they can sell it if it's in good condition- or give it away to someone else.

I was in a similar situation (apart from being able to afford it lol)
My sister in law offered hers, it's been in the loft for 3 years so don't know what state it's in.

I saw one I fell in love with so just brought it. So happy I did.

My sister in law was absolutely fine about it, if they care about you they won't mind.

I would absolutely buy the one you want.

You could always keep the other one too as a spare or if you travel somewhere? Always good to have a spare.

Just buy one then! Tell your friend thanks very much but your parents wanted to buy you one. Don’t see what the issue is tbh.

Thanks everyone. I know it's not really a major issue I just worried that I was being unreasonable and didn't want to offend her! Know we're very lucky to be in the position where we can afford to buy our own and didn't want to seem ungrateful I guess!

I'd be tempted to get it and say someone bought it for you at Christmas/in the sales. At least you know you've got one then.

My sister in law offered me her pushchair when my son was born. He's 2 now - still no sign