Pregnant after miscarriage

[Rachael321]

7 weeks today by my calculations and struggling to feel happy or get excited.

Miscarried last august at 8 weeks and was devastated. Beforehand we had been etc for a year and when we got the bfp we were over the moon and desperate to tell everyone and we lay in bed talking about names etc and lots of little things baby related.

This time is different though, we had stopped trying and decided to see what happened and move on as we were both getting down about it all. So the bfp was a big shock!!!

I'm happy cause it's what I always wanted but I dont feel anything, not wanting to talk about it or tell anyone.

Anyone else felt this way or is it just me?

I lost 2 babies last year. And on xmas eve I got my bfp. I did the test to get it out the way. As we wasnt trying anymore because I couldn't loose another baby. I wanted to go back on the pill etc. So I did the test knowing it would be negative and I knew I wouldn't be upset. But low and behold it was my bfp with my rainbow baby who I'm currently sat feeding right now. Believe me it is going to be hard! I was so scared at every scan or every mw appointment with the doppler that I'd be told there is no heartbeat. But it never happened. I calmed down when I found out she was a she and when i could feel her moving around. Being able to feel her made me feel a lot better. It will be hard but 🤞🏻🤞🏻 everything goes great for you. I loved every minute of being pregnant. And now she's here its even better. Sorry for the long post. 🙈

I'm in a similar situation and I get it. We were trying, so logically I'm happy to be pregnant, but I can't get excited at all as who knows what is going to happen in the next 7 months? It's hard.

Same here. 11+2 today and had a MMC in July. We’ve had an 8 week scan which showed baby at right size with good heart beat, but it didn’t reassure me much. I simply moved on to worrying about the results of NIPT test and the growth scan. Trying to remain positive for the sake of my husband (who cannot understand why I’m not delighted by 1 pos scan already) but think I’m basically preparing myself up for something to go wrong. I think this is pretty common though - a friend of mine had 2 mis carriages prior to having her daughter last summer, & she didn’t tell anyone she was even pg till 20 weeks!

Glad I'm not the only one feeling it! It's a pretty lonely place/feeling id say.
The only person I've told is my line manager as had to arrange time off and theres lots of change at work so had to make them aware. As said above, feels like preparing for the worst to happen. Ie if it does how cam I phone on sick and say I've had a loss when they knew nothing about it?

Hope that makes sense and I'm not just rambling on!

Really good to be able to connect with people going through the same experience. We had a MMC in April last year, also after over a year of ttc and were totally devastated. We were so excited and positive about that pregnancy, but this time around I feel like I've been holding my breath since I found out I was pregnant, which was on Christmas eve and came as a big shock. We had been refered for IVF and didn't think we would conceive naturally. I'm trying my best to keep calm and rest, But my mind can't help but stray in to 'what if' territory at times, especially in the middle of the night when I usually lie awake worrying. I don't know how I would cope with the disappointment of another loss. I can't imagine this stress is good for the developing baby either so I also feel a lot of guilt about my inability to control my worrying. I have booked an early scan. I have three weeks to get through until then and that seems like an eternity.

Congratulations!
I also had a miscarriage in June last year, i'm now 23 weeks pregnant and as much as we had early scans and the 12 and 20 week scan were all fine, i still can't relax fully.
I purchased the pram at the weekend and still didn't get excited so don't beat yourself up about it.
I feel him kick daily but when something doesn't feel right i do panic and get anxious still.
I think it's just what pregnancy is like after a miscarriage but you learn to relax a little. I'm not fully relaxed but much better than i was at the beginning so it does get easier!

I'm in a similar situation. Had a MMC in May at 13 weeks. We stopped trying so we could relax and got a BFP in mid December. Started spotting last week, so that's been a surprise and I am so anxious. First scan at 5 weeks (I know it is early but they wanted to check it wasn't ectopic). They saw the sac and hormones have been tested twice, all good.

I still feel so anxious. The spotting doesn't help. I just want this to be a healthy pregnancy with a healthy baby. Xxx

Ive only just started feeling excited about this pregnancy. I’m 19 weeks and just had my scan. I didn’t let myself get excited as I had a miscarriage back in August at 9 weeks. I haven’t told anyone at work although family know so your not alone in the way your feeling

It took me a while to get excited. We had a mmc last November at 12 weeks. Got our bfp in January 2019 and currently watching the monitor as she's napping upstairs 😊 I suffer from anxiety, so found the early weeks tough. I paid for extra scans, these really helped me stay sane, as the unknown was the worst part for me. After we passed the 12 week mark I started to relax. By 20 weeks we could get excited. Set yourself short term goals, time will pass, you will get swept up in the excitement when you're ready. Congratulations x

Exact same position. Had an MMC at 8 weeks in 2018, now I'm 7 weeks today. Nausea and food aversion has kicked in this morning (never had this with my DS or the mc - must be a girl!) so am lying in bed reading MN feeling crappy, but taking it to be a good sign. Still very nervous though - I will feel better next week after I've made it to 8 weeks, plus we're having a scan on Wednesday to see if there's a heartbeat. Never saw one last time so that'll be a really assuring milestone. Good luck to everyone!